Is it normal to be afraid of the next level?

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Okay so, I've been "seeing" this guy for a few weeks. We mostly just text and Facebook, and we had one date. It was nice, we ate and shopped together. But he wants to take our relationship to the next level, and I'm not sure I'm comfortable with it because I've only known him less than a month. He asked me to be his gf, and I said I want to at least wait until if and when we get closer. I feel kinda bad cause he's nice and all, I'm just kinda afraid to turn a "relationship" into a *RELATIONSHIP* , at least so soon. He's asked me if I've had coitus, which I haven't, and I don't know what to do if he would ask me to do it with him. I've considered the possibility of being an asexual or sexual anorexic. I haven't told him cause I'm not sure he'd understand. I've tried to pursue guys before but don't think about sex often at all. Anyway, is it normal to feel this way or am I too awkward?

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    Its actualy nithing to be scared of...trust me im married.

    ...(Y)
    ...('.')
    .o(")(") the bunny has spoken.

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  • XcOoKiEsX
    11 years ago

    ^ wayyyyy tooo long to read

    only advice i have is to actually spend more time with him physically... you dont really know someone until you do. That's what i think at least.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Thanks for the comment. I somewhat disagree; I have virtual friends who I've become tight with and I want to meet them when I can afford it. But one who doesn't have good friends in the virtual world doesn't really understand and that's forgivable.

      Anyway, I do have quite a bit in common with this guy. He usually messages me more than once every day, it's not really bothersome but he asks the same things all the time and I don't want to bore him by answering the same every time. We haven't arranged to meet again, at least not yet. If he wants to it's cool, I'm kinda leaving it up to him.

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      • XcOoKiEsX
        11 years ago

        I understand amazing online friends and i most certainly understand not being able to afford it. But i dont think you see all the sides to a person online, such as when they are angry and their behaviors that follow.

        I think if you want to meet him, take charge and ask him. If you both want to make things work, he will try his best as you should.

        As for boring him, i understand that. So maybe don't respond to all his messages. Keep him waiting and thinking about you. If that dosent suit you then dont do it.

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    Please try this:
    Instead of asking yourself those two dreadful words at the start of each story, ask yourself "What I want to write about is..."
    Then begin with your introduction, which was fine in this instance. "I've been "seeing" this guy for a few weeks."

    Please do not use text, girlfriend, not gf.

    "Kinda" is not a word. Try to describe how you feel in a more succinct way.
    "I feel kinda bad", becomes something like, I feel a little disappointed...

    The use of the contraction for 'because' is sometimes acceptable, but please notice the apostrophe in 'cause.

    I'm glad that you understand the difference between a "relationship" and a "RELATIONSHIP", and I also like vey much how you had stated that.
    I feel that you should go with your instinct, and not rush into something that you're not ready for yet.
    But please be aware that the boy might lose interest in you if your feelings and intentions don't change for an extended period of time.
    I feel that it would be best simply to say mostly what you have written here, to explain your emotions towards him.
    Remember, he's a boy and he wants one thing!

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