Is it normal to be afraid of sex?

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I'm a girl, I'm almost 18, and I'm a virgin. Now, I don't think that's a problem, but I'm actually afraid of sex.

When I'm with my boyfriend, I love making out, and the heat, and back scratching, and skin touching, and all that jazz, but I want our pants to stay on. I've never felt the desire to go past second base, and I used to just think it was gross, but I think I'm actually afraid of it.

I know that it's probably not as big a problem as I think it is, but I feel like I may lose people because of it. Like, I feel like this relationship may not work out because of it, and future relationships as well.

Obviously, I've talked to my boyfriend about it, and he understands. Or, I've at least told him that I'm not ready. But I feel like I'm never going to be ready.

So, is this normal?

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    It's normal. For women, sex tends to be something you want after you've already done it. Not in all womens cases, but for quite a few. I have a friend who didn't want to have sex, but did recently and that's alll she ever talks about lol You shouldn't let yourself get scared because that's unhealthy, but it's okay to not want to.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Sex is FUCKING awesome

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    As long as you're ready by the time you plan to get married. If he respects you, he will wait.

    Also, If you ever plan to reproduce, there will be no choice in the matter.

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  • FocoUS
    11 years ago

    It is normal for a person so young but you should learn to loosen up a little, for yourself. Sex is a natural thing.

    Maybe you're too unfamiliar with sex. Do you masturbate? Maybe you don't understand your own body/

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