Is it normal to be afraid of messing up the first time ?

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Here's the whole question: Is it normal to be afraid to mess up the first time having sex to the point of thinking you would rather not have sex at all? Well I am a 20 years old girl and I am overly stressing about the first time, but I feel I shouldnt be that stressed out about it , but I just can't seem to be relaxed to the idea of me probably not being good the first time and embarrasing myself and accepting more intimacy with another person so in the end I just sabottage any relationship or possibilities that come my way because I am afraid of eventually having sex, and would rather never need to be faced with the embaressement of a first time!

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    You can learn a lot from porn, just sayin'.

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  • patsy.stone
    11 years ago

    Nobody is a seasoned pro the first time we do ANYTHING, whether it's sex, skydiving, or making scratch blueberry muffins. Since sex is a milestone, being nervous is normal. Some people are going to be more nervous than others. When the time is right, your desire to make love will outweigh your nervousness. And odds are, you'll be with someone understanding enough to take it slow and sensitive enough to offer constructive advice without making you feel like you're already supposed to know what you're doing. Once you bumble through the first time like the rest of us, you'll feel progressively less self-conscious as you bumble through the rest of your sex life, and you'll start to have a really good time.

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  • dude_Jones
    11 years ago

    Get a guy with an exquisite sense of touch. Relax. Feel his lips touch yours. Listen to him tell you why you are pretty. Feel the pleasure - the rest will just happen.

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    • twinklesstar
      11 years ago

      well said!

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    I'm pretty sure everybody sucks for their first time.

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  • mazgan
    11 years ago

    drink something.

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  • manii92
    11 years ago

    How much can you really do the first time?.. You should really worry about pain or getting pregnant the first time..

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  • gifty.appiah
    11 years ago

    wow.!!!!
    the tutorials are encouraging..
    I need friends from all over the wworld

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  • DealinBurgers
    11 years ago

    Your a girl. You barely have to do anything. Guys usually do most of the work so there is not a whole lot you can mess up. I think just letting a guy have sex with you is enough for them to be satisfied. Though most guys do prefer a girl who try to put in a little extra effort, you'll probably be just fine. Then again, that's just me.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    everyone is not that great the first time, and if the other person knows you're a virgin he shouldn't be expecting too much porn-star-ness from you anyway lol

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