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so when you love someone is it normal to be afraid of letting them know because you are afraid that the feeling may not be mutual
I'm usually afraid, and for the same reason as you. But if the worst is only that they don't feel the same, after confessing, be relieved you've even put it out there at all. You'll get your answer, and then you'll know whether to keep holding/hanging on, or to move on to someone new.
Normal, but will make the relationship harder and end exactly the way you think it would.
I wasn't trusted with my ex's feelings. Because of her past, she held back a lot. Well, she didn't trust me, tell me much, never really apologized because in her mind men were always at fault and although I was always home, apparently I cheated a lot...all of that made the relationship hard to keep going and it ended badly. Because she didn't trust me, it was hard to trust her. To me, she had things to hide and if I'm always going to have the cheating arguments I may as well talk to other women.
People who accuse others of cheating are always the biggest cheaters. It's a bad sign.
I never trusted my girlfriends, yet I was the cheater, and then some. It's like a guilt transference, because I cheat all the time I feel like everyone else must be just like me.
Just like how pathological liars tend not to trust others at all, because they can only relate to their own psyche.
Dane Cook did an excellent bit about that on one of his stand up comedy specials.
If you wanna get paranoid about someone cheating on you just cheat on them.
Dane Cook has done nothing excellent, ever.
He is a terrible comedian who needs to be put in a box with Tyler Perry and sunk to the bottom of the ocean.
This may sound mean but sometimes it's better not to get involved with really damaged people. Lots of people out there need to work on their issues before even thinking about getting in a relationship.
Well comparing to what I do, yes it is normal. The reason behind that is the fear of getting hurt, the rejection of the person that can be followed by the change in her/his behaviour and the way other people will see you (especially if you are a girl like myself). However, not expressing those feelings is not a good thing as well. You may build lots of dreams and wishes and then you can get even more disappointed than getting rejected. I lived such a thing with a guy and I kept imagining (or that's my explanation for what happened) and of course building my dreams till the day I discovered that he is about to get married. I thought that I wouldn't get this hurt if I confessed what I felt toward him. Anyway Life goes on and I came with the conclusion that expressing your feelings is a good thing as long as it conserves your self respect :) Good luck
I suppose you just have to wait till the moment is right to tell them how you feel.
Myself personally, I see human life as a very fragile thing and I treat each day as a new miracle. So I would never wait to tell someone how I feel, no matter how nervous I am about it. It's better for them to know and for you to know back if they are for real. Call me morbid but I always think well if something was to happen to them, they would've never known how I felt.
It is very normal, especially if you're close friends with that person, because things very awkward if they don't feel the same way, and you risk losing them as a friend too.
Totally normal :) I think its harder for guys though, since we dont do that whole "in touch with feelings" thing