Is it normal to be abused by your wife because you are the homemaker?

We have been married almost 6 years now and the last 2 years have been very hard. We have 3 children; 2 boys and a girl. I am a very devoted husband and father, but I do not work at a job. Instead, I work with my 3 kids all day, every day. They are not home schooled, however I supplement at home(math, Chinese, piano, guitar, how to write, read, etc). My kids never leave my side. I sleep with them at night. I cook all meals at home, some fancy, some simple. I clean our house so well that you could literally eat off the floor. I fix anything that breaks in the house including expensive stuff like foundation cracks, making furniture, etc.(I was an engineer before getting married). She barely does anything even for herself. I wait on her hand and foot. I gave up all my relationships with friends and family. No one can count on me, unless they ask her first. I always do something special for my wife on valentines day, Christmas, birthday, without spending HER money(we'll get there). She never gets me anything for any holiday, and I have to remind her of our anniversary. Yet every time I do something she does not approve of she cuts me off. She has in the past taken my bank cards away while I was sleeping, never put me on the house we own together, and I'm not on any of the bank accounts. I have my own account that my MOM puts money in to help pay off a student loan my wife won't help me with anymore cause I didn't want to stay in Taiwan, for 3 weeks sleeping on the hardwood floor. Guess what happened? She stopped my loan and I still had to sleep on the floor for 3 weeks. Is this behavior normal just because I do not work? I feel like I'm on call 24/7. I know what everyone is going to say, leave her. We have 3 of the most wonderful kids in the world and I wouldn't leave them to her abuses. She is definitely not a good wife but she is a good mother.