Is it normal to be abused and not realize that it's abuse ?

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Is it normal to be abused and not realize that , then later on you'll realize it,(you know that what the person is doing to you is wrong , but no one in the family admits that , so you don't consider it abuse ) , after people /psychologists tell you that it's abuse , you realize it? , also treating the abuser as though nothing happened, and foregtting what he did , so he /she's happy about that , since his/her daughter doesn't hold a grudge towards him /her ,you treat him/her well because he/she is your parent and you are "supposed" to treat him/her well ?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    me too. I figured out my parents are assholes about a year ago. They had me convinced that being submissive towards them (accepting all the verbal, physical, and sexual abuse) makes me a better person than everyone else on "the outside." But they're just five year olds stuck in fifty year old's bodies, they need enormous amounts of attention, they will get it any way they can, and they will continue to abuse me to convince me that I'm not worth anything, that they display God-like compassion to keep me around, and that this is the best it will ever be. A lot of what you wrote I can relate to. To not know you're being abused is a major part of the abuse.

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  • hermione
    12 years ago

    everyone knows when they are being abused its just they either dont want to believe it could happen to them or they are not strong enough to deal with it.
    its totally normal to feel this way and its bad when that happens but its even worse when other people condone it

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    For one, please be more specific. Way too much he/she and ambiguity, you're posting anonymously, there's nothing to be afraid of here.

    But it is normal. I was abused by a partner for months and denied that what he did was abuse until someone made me face what he did and realize what a douche he was.

    Sometimes something that happens to a person is too traumatic, so they unconsciously ignore the issue... By forgetting or rationalizing or just pretending it didn't happen. It's a way for the mind to protect itself.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Didn't really understand but I guess it's possible.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Can you just explain what the fuck happened?

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