Is it normal to be able to forgive my problems if i wan't fat

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I have issues like everybody else but I can't forgive myself or see the light of these issues because I'm fat (5"6", 197 lbs.) My issues are being a loner, outcast, social anxiety, and paranoia. I guess I experience normal teenage angst. If I wasn't fat (I gained 35 lbs. sitting at home all year)I feel like my problems wouldn't be as nagging. Is it normal? Why do I feel this way?

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    Want isn't a contraction.

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  • Dizzee
    12 years ago

    If it wasn't for my depression, I'd still be 200lbs. During the summer, I lost my appetite. I know it's unhealthy and I'm currently working on it. I've also been trying to get out more recently and I'm going to get into swimming and moving around more often again, if I can and what not.
    I know the feeling of being lonely and being an outcast and I'm sorry that you have to go through it too. Listen though, if you need someone to talk to, let me know.
    I used to always blame myself for everything too, however some things are out of your control and you can't help it. I agree with the other people, this is normal, but you should try to fix it (especially before it's too late). It'll take time, but you should try to enjoy life as much as possible.
    Sorry for any cheesiness and what not, just trying to help, ya know.

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    • dappled
      12 years ago

      There should be more people like you on this site. When I see a whole slew of judgemental idiots snarling their pathetic little hatred here, I almost lose the will to ever come back to IIN.

      But then I see what you posted and it restores my faith that there are nice people (with or without problems) who actually want to help. I hope you stick around on IIN.

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      • Dizzee
        12 years ago

        Thank you for this wonderful compliment, I started to tear up a little. I hope you don't leave just because there's some jerks on here. That would be such a shame.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Is anyone else confused by the above question...?

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      I am. But I think I'm getting the point of this story.

      Op you can fix it. Eat healthier, join a gym and lose those extra pounds that are making you feel this way.

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  • tentacleTherapist
    12 years ago

    Fat can be fixed. I have friends that are overweight but that doesn't change a thing. But it is unhealthy and (in my eyes) unattractive. If you want to be skinny, go for it! If a small body's what YOU find swell, work at it to lose weight! Get professional help you'll do better and faster.

    Are you a good person? What are your interests? If you need a friend and you're a nice person, I'd love to talk with you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Maybe your a loner and outcast etc because you have low confidence due to ur weight. I'm sure u can be confident and fat. Think about it, plenty if fat people are NOT loners or outcasts... Maybe u focus on ur weight too much? If it really bothers u, then work it off? Exercise, eat healthy, etc.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    My sister is the same height as you but was always 30 pounds heavier than you until she went to Weight Watchers. She always went to the gym and got tablets off the doctor to absorb less fat but she has lost about 40lbs now by eating healthily.

    I have put on about 15 lbs as I haven't been able to walk or get out of the house for the past 6 months. I haven't been well and have turned to chocolate for comfort :o(

    We should all lose the weight together - and the other problems should subside as you gain more confidence. You are young enough for your skin to contract and tone up again. Go for it!

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  • joolia03
    12 years ago

    Are you saying that you have no excuse for your problems because you're fat so you just blame yourself? If so then I get what you mean. We're our own worst enemies because we are the only ones who know every single flaw of ourselves so it's easy to criticize yourself and get down because you know the truth. Because you have normal teenage depression such as being an outcast, you let yourself go and feel lazy to care about things. The point is it's normal but not cool so now just fix it, you're still young and have plenty of time to be happy.

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    Its normal to feel like this. You probably dont feel in control, and thats the main issue. As much as your not going to like this, your just going to have to do it, loose the weight (in a healthy way). You will feel better about yourself, and more in control.
    Good luck, remember its 75% diet - 25% exercise

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    What exactly do you need help with?

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