Is it normal to be a virgin at 21 years old?

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I'm a girl, 21 years old obviously, and well, I'm still a virgin. I received my real first kiss only one year ago, and as far as other experiences go, I have only given a guy a handjob once, but that was when I was really drunk. I don't usually make out when I go clubbing or anything, I'm just really awkward and we laugh, and the guys always want to kiss and I don't. I'm just not the "kiss or have sex on the first date" kinda girl.
I know it's fine that I choose to do with my body as I please, but I'm afraid this way I'll stay unexperienced for a long time. I don't have a relationship, never really had one, but I'm really afraid that guys dislike me because I don't know how to do anything.
And answers like, "just do it once" aren't helping. I'm not like that, I can't just do it. I need to trust the guy completely, but I'm not sure guys are willing to wait for me.
It all sounds really depressing, but it kinda is, I mean, I'm 21 and I've never had a boyfriend or sex. Based on everyone's opinion on sex, it's pretty damn sad.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    when u meet the right guy things will change. Don't be in a hurry and just let things happen. The guy thats right for u will wait as long as it takes for u to be comfortable with things. Listen to urself and not what others r telling u. Take care

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  • SockUnicorn92
    7 years ago

    I wish every person were like this. To wait for the right person should be everybody's priority. It's pure and righteous

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  • Gud2go
    7 years ago

    I am also a virgin darling, its normal. My first real relationship started last year March, and is still on.. I think the guy might even become my first, because really he was the first to kiss me anyway, and the only one so far, and I think I'm in love.... Aaaah .... I have always turned boys down just because I am afraid of getting hurt.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Its best with someone your in a relationship with keep trying you'll find the right 1. Good luck.

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    I started young, had sex with dozens of women that I barely knew, had an outrageous amount of fun, got married and divorced 3 times, and now at 48 I'm alone with little to no chance of ever being in a relationship again.

    Stay true to yourself. Keep to your path, because any other alternative isn't necessarily any better in the long run.

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  • Unicorns321
    7 years ago

    It's totally normal I mean I am 24 and I am still a virgin.dont worry.

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  • kellibean.no.1
    7 years ago

    The majority of people lose their virginity at or before 18, but the next age group to lose virginity is statistically the one you're in :) you're not far behind &, personally, you might be smarter than the first group!

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  • Realityforyou
    7 years ago

    I know your desires and fulfilment can be found.
    Rev. D

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  • _Jesus_
    7 years ago

    Mom?!

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  • Dallas8
    7 years ago

    21 and no cocks in your bald cunt , ass and mouth is ungodly and unheard of in this society.
    I never heard of virgins over the age of 12 that were born in the 1990's and 2000's.
    So , anybody born between 1990 - 2004 who is still a virgin must be a saint.
    Do you even know what a cock looks like ?
    Have you ever seen one in person for real ?

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    • Gud2go
      7 years ago

      I am 18 and I have never. Ever. Seen a male genital in real life, except my baby bro's of course, which I see when I bath him..

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      • Dallas8
        7 years ago

        How old is your baby bro ?
        Didnt you take baths with your other brother when you were both younger ?
        Doesnt it make you curious and wonder what a fully erect 6 inch cock and balls looks like and want to feel one inside of your cunt , ass and mouth ?
        Didnt you ever see your Dad's cock coming out of the shower or getting undressed or catch him jerking off ?
        Didnt your girlfriends tell you what the male cock feels like in their cunts , asses , mouths and tell you to try it ?
        At least give a dude a blowjob and let him cum in your mouth and in your poop chute.

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        • Gud2go
          7 years ago

          My dad died when I was 7, and when I was younger, I was not allowed in his bedroom so I never saw it.. My baby bro is actually my half bro. He's 3 years old, and I don't even know his father.. My friends talk about these things all the time but I always find the topic disgusting, and they always say that "You should explore... blah blah blah. . you won't be young forever" and all that ish, but its not like not doing these things will kill me or anything...

          And to add, the age difference between my older bros and I did not allow us to bath together. They bathed in their own rooms.

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          • Dallas8
            7 years ago

            They bathed in their own rooms ?
            Didnt they bathe in the bathtub in the bathroom ?
            You must have seen them getting undressed or them walking around the house naked or seen them coming out of the bathroom or saw them jerking off.
            The title in the post says you are 21 , not 18.
            Sex and the male cock is never disgusting

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            • Gud2go
              7 years ago

              I am not the one that posted I just commented. I am 18. My bros have showers in their rooms. The rest of us (girls) use the main bathroom and do not have our own rooms, because we don't need our own rooms, since one day we will marry and go away.

              And also, to me the topic is disgusting, to them its a normal thing to talk about. Maybe I might get married still a virgin, or die still a virgin.

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