Is it normal to be a virgin at 19 and to never had a girlfriend?

I never really thought about it until my second year of College. I'm very extroverted and I'm probably one of the most coolest guys you'll meet. I remember when me and my friends were in middle school we would talk about sex and how awesome it would be and fast forward a good 8 years and they all had sex and here I am still a virgin. And I don't really want to have one night stands. I always thought I'd have sex with my girlfriend but I never had one of those either.

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  • joshinator20

    its normal i never had a girlfriend and a virgin and im 20

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  • TheConcepticon

    I would question the importance of normality but that would seem odd given what this site is about. Anyhow, if we are to say by normal we mean what the majority do, then I would say its probably not normal. I'm 21 and I've never had a girlfriend or had sex or even kissed a girl, or even to go as low as held hands. So it's also not as if you're alone on this, but I'd say you just aren't the majority.

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    • dabourko1

      do you feel suicidal because of this? i've kissed a few girls and gotten oral sex from one but i've tried to commit suicide twice because of the shame of being a virgin

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      • rclay1992

        Me to

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  • random87

    I don't see anything wrong with being a 19year old virgin. It shows you have self respect and don't just put your dick in anything. You will know when it is time to happen.

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  • dzulu1

    Honesty, stop chasing girls your age. they play alot of games and make you go through loops.
    remember how in high school alot of the really hot chicks always seemed to date some older guy with a car. its your turn to be that guy, women like older men. so if you want that relationship just talk to a younger chick as long as she's legal your good.
    or talk to older chicks (over 25 under 45) they're more mature (no games), they know what they want ,and usually have there shit together. and if you start talkn to a milf you'll loose your virginity sooner that u expected and she'll teach you some stuff.

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  • PoisonFlowers

    It's normal. Being a virgin at 19 really isn't a big deal. There's no rush to get into anything unless you want to.

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  • Gtown

    Man I'm in the same boat as you. I'm 18 and had one gf so far and am still a virgin. It's not that I've had trouble with women, in fact I could have done it a couple times by now and I know that sounds like a douche thing to say but its just fact. I've been told I'm to picky as well and was raised Christian. I could tell you to save or go ahead and loose it but you're gonna do what you wanna do just know ur not alone haha

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  • Magnetising

    I think it would be generally 'Normal' for an introverted, unattractive, unpopular 19-year-old male to be a Virgin, but I am shocked by your predicament.

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    • FoodForExercise

      My friend says its just a string of lost opportunities.

      Also, since I was raised as a Christian, I thought to myself that I should "save" myself for my wife but now I just feel a little stupid for some reason. Also they tell me I'm way too picky. Damn it.. haha

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  • silver76

    I'm 33,I have had sex on three occasions,found it to be a right let down,when your young and everyone talks sex all the time you imagine it to be the best thing in the universe,but when you have been there and done it you wonder what all the fuss was about.Having a wank at home is easier and alot less stressful.As for "Girlfriends" or "Relationships" I've never had one,pretty glad too after seeing all the misery they cause my friends.Sex,overated and relationships are to be avoided,if I were you I wouldnt worry and count yourself lucky you havent got tied up in all that nonsense and bullshit.

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  • Yellowman

    I'm a 19 year-old male virgin. I wasted most of my teenage years earning my college degree early and writing meaningless essays, poems, and books. There's a good chance I'll probably be a millionaire before the age of 35 (I'm well on my way) due to practical and intellectual skills, but I feel alienated from a lot of my friends.

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  • dabourko1

    well i get what your saying but nothings "natural" these days and everythings "normal" which basically means socially acceptable so fuck being normal most people are Fwits anyway man listen to me you can achieve great things if you set your mind to it and find yourself a girl to have sex with without effort because she'll be interested in you

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  • Kilt

    I think your normal. Just chill about this. Right person, right place and right time. I hope you wait to find a quality girl and not just to do it to prove something to yourself or others. Either way no judgement.

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  • XypherWolf

    Same boat, I don't really plan to find someone until I get to collage, unless of course I see someone I really like. But then again I kinda have a weird taste in girls. I call this normal.

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  • mdht7

    you sound like a good guy because you dont want a one night stand -not that theres anything wrong with those :)- and im guessing you have high standards and want the perfect girl? just wait, because when you meet her, you wont be a virgin for long.

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  • WayOutThere

    It's not that unusual to be a virgin at 19. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn't 'just happen.' Unless you're lucky enough to be popular, attractive, and surrounded by girls, you probably need to take the initiative and learn how to find and attract them. This is a skill you can develop.

    As for losing your virginity, yes it would be better to do so with a girlfriend, as what you really want to do is get practical experience with sex, and this will take time. You won't learn much from a one night stand. An alternative might be to find an older, more experienced girl. She can teach you things, and might be more patient.

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    • BrianPomona126

      I used to be the 19 year old virgin too. I had a slow start with girls. I went to an all boys school for all of middle and high. Don't worry, I'm NOT gay! I finally lost it to a girl I met off MySpace at 19 :)

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  • perpendicular

    Dude you might be gay. Think deeply.

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  • deremin12

    yes it is cause you wait for the one you really like if you havent found it yet propably marry her...you may stay virgin for some years 19-25 but its your right after all dude (natural is what you think as natural )

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  • Mikael

    idooit omg dude can u make ur dick useful omg thats whyyyyy god gave u one jux go gay the omfg ur gay maybe but well if ur cool then make it useful......its easy to get girls its jux that these days losers like u guys dont try ...

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