Is it normal to be a virgin at 23?

I'm also a female virgin at 23. I've dated and kissed several guys and the opportunity for sex has presented itself on more than one occasion. For various reasons I said no.

I think virgins are way more common than society thinks. It's strange to me how societal values make it seem like there's something wrong with a person for remaining a virgin, or that person must be super religious. That's probably why more of us don't volunteer that we're virgins.

I'm a human sexuality educator. (And also 23.)

Don't ever bother asking others if you are normal when it comes to *your* sexuality. Sex is not in our bodies, sex is in our minds. And every person's mind is different. Don't let anyone convince you that you're "missing out" on something either. Because each person's unique set of values will also play into what your sexual experiences will be like.

For example, most teens *say* they are ready to have sex when they are in high school- and yes, some of them are. But more often than not, those teens that have sex were not ready to do so with their own sets of morals and personal values. They usually have a real sense of regret afterwards because they rushed into something they weren't ready for. They simply bought into this stigma that surrounds sex; that if you don't have sex or sexual experiences with another person, you'll be a loser. When in reality, that's just our minds hypnotized by media telling us how amazing sex is, because they want our money. Because let's face it- sex sells!

But there is no rule that says you must kiss, hook-up, or have sex by any certain age. Sexuality means something different to everyone, and psychology says the only thing that is ever to be considered abnormal when it comes to sexuality is when it's non-consensual. Everything else, it's anything goes! Some people are asexual- they just have no yearning desire for sex. Some people wait until marriage to have sex still. Some people have multiple partners, open relationships, or go on again and off again with their partners. All which fall under the category of "normal". Don't do something simply because you feel you have to. Do it whenever you want to- *if* you ever want to.

Yes it's normal. I'm a 19 year old female and i'm still a virgin. In fact, I believe that i'll always be a virgin. But that's alright. I'd rather remain a virgin than partake in sex. The mere thought of having sex repulses me. It's absolutely Disgusting.

Sex is the greatest experience ever and you are missing out!

Ok sex isn't really that thrilling and contrary to popular belief there is a lot more to life than it.
It's very easy to live without.
Besides you are truly living and experiencing life more without it.
When you get married if you do then is the time and then you can have a true lasting relationship.

People. Just to clarify no I'm not a prude (i hope not..), I'm not waiting for prince charming, and I don't have self-esteem issues. I can talk about sex openly and in an educated manner but I will not perform an act with just anyone. I wasn't expose to the idea of prince charming until I was in high school and babysat with a friend- not everyone grows up reading about princesses- my mother read to us about astronomy LOL. As for self-esteem- it's called "self" for a reason. I am fine being who I am. And everyone has a curiosity worth exploring. Please don't jump to conclusions. Overall, considering the number or yes votes and some comments I am a little bit more inclined to say we aren't that small or a minority of women who do not have relations simply because it's expected or because we can.

@leshiaedwards yup. Not even a kiss. I always thought any exchange of fluids to be considered quite intimate and Well not that I'm looking for "price charming" as someone mentioned before but I have a very busy life- guess I've been pretty much all business since I can remember. Not to mention the nonprofit sector is full of women so there aren't many men to choose from.

same! though I am almost 19 and I am a female

I want to always be a virgin.

21 here :) it's so frustrating, all the guys who've liked me I've just not liked back at all. I've been ready for a while but I suppose I'm just waiting for someone I can trust, as opposed to having a one night stand.
Came to the conclusion a couple of year's ago that I genuinely don't care about what age I am, it'll happen when it happens.
And in the mean time, we have our toys :p

I'm also 23 and I have not had a girlfriend, had sex or kiss a girl.

Don't worry age has nothing to do with it and it doesn't mean you're not ready for it. You're 300% normal :)

I'm 26 and haven't done it yet. I am desperate to but the last guy I met is in a committed relationship with some else and wanted no strings fun with me. Much as I love the guy and as desperate as I am to do it with him...I'm saving it for someone who is free to love me back.

It's tough because I want it (and him!) so badly but every message board I've been on says people have regretted throwing away their virginity...especially with peer pressure when all you're friends are hooking up, getting married and having kids etc.

Concentrate on being your fantastic self (guys love confident, happy girls who are having a great time) and he will come along when you least expect it...and the sex will be extra special and worth the wait! :)

Yeah I'm 20 and a virgin, I'll probably reach 23 and be the same deal - not from a lack of people liking me, I just have had no interest in return. Not that I see losing your virginity as a big deal, I just want to be in a good relationship first.

just get sex over with imo, you're first time will not be very good and all around awkward.I would say get yourself a classy whore and just do it that way.

I think it's normal. Many people marry in their late twenties, and quite a few wise ones are virgins until then.

@suckonthis9 that's hilarious! Not really looking for sexual advice I was just wondering how many alike where out there.

thats crazyyyy... not even a kisss.?

You're okay to not have it yet. You just haven't found your soul mate yet. You should find you soul mate, but don't think about not having your virginity lost yet because you don't want to give away it to some random guy before you for sure haven't found the right guy and got married when you know for sure

you're fine.

only you can decide when it's time for you to start.

don't rush in just because others are. they can't decide what's right for you. only you can do that

Remember, you will only lose your virginity once!

I know people like that, though it's not common.

Just don't let it hold you off from getting some more experience. Don't go all "Oh no, I can't kiss her because then she'll realise I'm inexperienced". That's just a vicious cycle.

There's not an abundance, but there out there. Definitely not alone in this department. Part of it is probably that you haven't met someone you can love that way, another might be that your too shy.

Don't put it off till you're 70, but don't go diving into it just so you can say you're not a virgin anymore. Do what's right for you.