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I hate who i am because I'm a very lonely, envious,angry,human fucking being. As well as anyone who has no fucking idea what that really feels like but just say they do to try and shut me up! to them i say FUCK YOU ALL!!!!
Pretty fucking apparent why you are an "unconfident, angry, self loathing,virgin at 30"
Why not try a dating site? There are plenty of self loathing, envious, angry, virgins that lack self confidence there. It's the reason I gave up using those types of sites.
To all who posted,even antihero whoever you are.I just wanted to know if it was normal or not. a simple yes or no would have been fine. But to have so many people willing to voice their opinions to me is amazing.i can't even get the time of day from most people when i'm in public.I guess i just really appreciate all your comments.It's just too bad we have to rely on our computers instead of face to face meetings.I would enjoy that a lot more.All the same thank you to everyone :) good night.
It is quite understandable that one is frustrated at being a 30 year old virgin. I'm close to 'achieving' that myself.
For me, it's not just about being a virgin. It's about not following the normal life development that is evident in other people's lives, e.g., moving in with someone; and it's about fearing that you are trailing behind, making it less likely that you could find out how to be a good partner if the chance arose.
But I have a suspicion, that if you want things to change, you need to put a lid on that kind of attitude. If you don't like your personal traits, then endeavour to change them. Entertaining thoughts about how sad your life is in such a dramatic way is probably not going to help, except for fuelling a nice session of self-pity. It may hurt to think that your negative emotions are doing jack shit to help you.
And are you so sure about the limits of other people's understanding? They may very well be able to understand how your life is or at least parts of it. Don't go around thinking you are too special for ordinary people to able to understand your situation, if that's what you are doing.
You can probably find people who are worse off than you. There have been people who were older than 30 and still virgins. Take a look at the people you see in public whose situations seems worse than yours.
well at least your admitting this things to yourself. that's the first step bro.
unconfident? you let it out to the public and open yourself to ridicule, that's brave.
another important step.
you know what you hate. now fix it. This won't be easy nor will it happen overnight, be patient. but I feel your heading in the right path to change.
I wish you the best.
man don't be angry. you are still so pure. if anything it makes losing your virginity 10 times as special. If you ever want to lose it, I don't think being lonely, envious and angry is going to get you far. Accept yourself and where you're at. Try not to measure yourself by society's standards. I know that's hard. Think of all your qualities and bring these to the fore. Good luck and I wish you well.
is it normal to be:
unconfident? yes
angry? yes
self-loathing? yes
virgin at 30? yes
don't be hard on yourself for those things. don't worry about what other people think. whoever tries to tell you a proper age for having sex for the first time is an idiot. it's all bullshit.
i'm sorry you're having a hard time with low confidence, anger, and self-loathing. that sucks. maybe try talking to a professional. and get involved with some hobbies that make you feel like you're accomplishing something.
just remember that men who act "thirsty" are just as bad and identifiable as women who act "thirsty." i hate those words but it's true, sometimes it can be really obvious when a guy wants to get with you and you're like ok why is this guy pushing so hard.
not saying you do this, i obviously don't know you, but just something to take into consideration that i tell everyone who asks for advice pertinent to the bit i just gave
Get an escort then. Do you approach girls and make your sexual intent and desires known? How can you not have a bank account?