Is it normal to be a twenty-year-old college student with no friends?

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I am a twenty-year-old going into my third year at a large public university. I have tried (really, I have) everything to try and make friends. I lived in a dorm for two years, went to club meetings, got a part-time job on campus, and talked to other kids in my classes. Yet I still have no friends to speak of. I moved into an apartment for the first time this year, but am forced to live with my older brother because I don't know anyone else to live with. It seems like every other girl my age has at least one best girlfriend, plus a circle of other friends and acquaintances with whom they regularly hang out with. This is why I'm beginning to feel that perhaps my situation is not the norm. What do you think?

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    I watch other people show empathy toward people and it is accepted with gratitude. I try it, and people stare at me like a cold fish.

    I am honestly only appreciated when at parties when I bring up controversial viewpoints with a style of "upbeat pessimism". I talk in a careless way to the top of the conversation. I always acknowledge comments more intelligent than my own.

    People like this. Maybe you could make it work for you.

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  • howlsilver
    9 years ago

    Its hard for me to find friends too cause im not talkative like the others. I managed to find few friends in college and some of them are the one who approached me. All I can say to you is go on with your life. Friends will come to you at the right time and at the right place. You dont need to have many friends, you only need few that can be trusted and you can count on during ups and down.

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  • Johnnytherat
    9 years ago

    All i saw was "girl" "no friends" my answer is boobs. problem solved. you can thank me with a bj or a hj your choice :D

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  • dom180
    9 years ago

    Why not? If you are able to talk to people, there must be a reason why you're not making the leap to being friends. Might you have trouble opening up emotionally?

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    • pumpkinspice
      9 years ago

      Exactly, I don't quite understand it. I talk to lots of people, but nothing ever comes out of it. I'm interested in getting to know people, but no no else seems to show interest in getting to know me. I don't feel like I'm a boring person, but perhaps that's the way I come across.

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      • (.)(.)boobies
        9 years ago

        People usually only show a strong interest in getting to know charismatic individuals, which sucks for anyone who isn't naturally charismatic. So for the rest of us normal people, we have to work a bit harder when making new friends.

        People are interested in themselves and if you act interested in them, it will make them feel special. Find out what they're interested in and ask questions about it. Avoid saying anything negative because people shy away from people who are downers. And make an effort to portray confident body-language while talking to people you want to get to know better.

        When you find someone you like, arrange to do something fun with them. After that, it's best to organize something with them on a regular basis (about once a week) to maintain regular contact.

        Allow the friendship to develop naturally over a couple of months. Don't divulged all of your darkest secrets or problems until you've been friends with them for a while. When you eventually have been friends for a month or two reveal those things in small doses and usually they will do the same.

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  • Cindy812
    7 years ago

    I had a REALLY good friend for the first time... I could talk to her about things I wouldn't normally talk about with others. But I feel like we have been distant for a while ;(. She's really open yet judging. I am socially awkward so I have difficulty starting conversations.
    Now I'm in the cycle of loneliness all over again

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  • Pika-girl
    9 years ago

    I'll be your friend!

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