Is it normal to be a straight girl and have crushes on girls

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so we have all heard of the term "girl crush" where a girl admires another girl for her beauty, intelligence, personality etc. basically she wants to be just like her, enjoys spending time with her, and wants to be friends even. I have had this happen to me throughout my 23 years, and I have neve had any fantasies about being in a relationship with another woman. The thing is, I've never even had a bf before, and I feel uncomfortable with things regarding sex and intimacy. I do get crushes and infatuations on guys, but not often. Sometimes if the guy reciprocates the feelings too fast, I get anxiety, find things wrong with him, and convince myself I don't like him. I'm very upset because I don't know why I am the way I am, or if it's normal or not? I really want to fall in love, but whenever I think about it, I get sooo nervous. Help!

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    From what I gathered, you admire from afar. You look but don't touch. As in you like the idea of being with someone, but when your dreams become reality things get a little shaky. As you said, you've never had a boyfriend before, so I get the vibe that you don't have much experience when it comes to how to act when someone likes you. I'm the same way. If you want to fall in love you have to start thinking of yourself as someone who can fall in love. I'm only saying this because, to me, it sounds like you have a low self esteem. From being depressed in the past I know that a low self esteem can seriously damage your dating life. Love won't just show up on your front door, it's something that you have to put in the effort to obtain. If a guy likes you, and you like him back, try to be confident and see where the relationship goes. Everyone deserves love.

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  • Bellaitalia89
    11 years ago

    Haha I'm definitely not a lesbian because I like guys. I am just really timid around them and insecure with myself. If anything I'm bisexual but I could never have a sexual or romantic relationship with a girl

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  • Virpz
    11 years ago

    This reminds me of a Jenna Marble's video

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  • old_school
    11 years ago

    bi-curious?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You are only feeling insecure about those girl crushes because you've yet to score yourself a boyfriend. Perhaps your expectations for having a boyfriend are unrealistic, I don't know (don't know you). Some young women tend to want that dream version of a relationship that they've had since they were a teenager. The lousy part of that is, it is never a realistic vision of what a real relationship is about. Loosen up and don't take it all so seriously, and most of all don't take yourself so seriously.

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Yes it's normal.
    This gets asked at least twice every week on this site.

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  • JBN
    11 years ago

    This topic is growing mold. If you are a girl and fool around with another girl when you are young, it is normal. If you are a boy and fool around with another boy when you are young, it is normal (notice I said "boy" and not the over fucking used term "guy".

    Have a crush on your same sex friend, if that is what you feel. It is up to you to either reveal it to them and risk getting hurt and humiliated, or possibly experiment if they are down for it.

    Those are the two decisions to make there is no other. So make it and move on.

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    • Garibeary
      11 years ago

      I agree completely...

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  • abominus566
    11 years ago

    i would say yes it is normal completely, my sister has said that even though she was straight she would go lesbian for the woman on l.a. ink kat i think is her name. also there was a time where i was attracted to a guy, but then i figured out i wanted to be with a woman. so no worries its normal

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    OMG really?
    I'll just look up the other 16,000 posts made on the subject.
    Hmm, seems that girl on girl crushes means you may be Bi Depending upon if you get sexually excited with thinking of the physical contact just the two of you girls in bed?
    If not, then you are straight again.
    Phew, lucky those other postS existed.
    Hey you may be able to help a girl out with the exact same issue tomorrow, not sure who it is since they haven't posted yet. Actually just come back any day in the future, there should be at least a few hundred by then.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I really wish this subject would just go away. Seriously, I simply cannot count the number of entries on this site devoted to the exact same thing.

    Have women really gotten this stupid? If you're attracted to the same gender, you are NOT straight; you are gay, or rather bisexual. Is that really so damned hard to understand? Why all the denial? I do not understand it in the slightest. Someone mentioned earlier that his sister claims to be straight, yet professed a desire to have sex with a particular woman. Holy hell, am I really hearing this?

    Come on now, I wonder how you'd all react if a guy said "I'm straight, but other guys turn me on."

    You're a lesbian. Accept it already and spare us all this nonsense.

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