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After a 5 1/2 year relationship, I haven't been with someone for 2 years. Anytime a new person comes along I seem to find something wrong. I'm being picky. Should I just try a relationship? Or wait....
Normal. A good man is hard to find. I typically meet men who are unemployed or underemployed, have babys mamas, are cheap, text all the time instead of calling as if they have a mental disability, etc. The list goes on and on. There are so many losers out there its scary. But I would rather be single than settle for a loser ANY DAY. Keep your standards high and don't settle. If you settle now you'll only regret it later.
I think as a whole most women are picky . Also wiat for the right man becuase if you drop your standard you are gonna end up with a ass and wonder gee why am I with him .
Oh dont worry i'm in the same boat as you are. Everytime i meet someone i seem to find something which turns me off about them and i cut off all ties. Its kinda slack because most of the time they do nothing wrong. The problem is ME. And i honestly dont know what to do, Everyone tells me i'm going to die lonely because i push everyone away. But i believe in fate and that one day ill find someone who i wont get turned off, and that will mean they might be right for me. Just take it for the better. I hope i find someone soon whom i am not picky over anymore.! and good luck to you as well. YOUR NORMAL.
I did wonder if you're perhaps experiencing a little fear because your last relationship was relatively long and ended (which must have caused you some pain). Or perhaps you're expecting someone to walk straight into the place in your life your ex held.
Relationships don't happen immediately; they grow over time. It's perfectly fine to reject someone when you know full well it isn't going to work out. But just be sure you're giving someone the opportunity to be that person to you. Funnily enough, this is advice given to me recently by someone else who uses the site.
Two years is way off.
It's good to have principles and measures but your standards are too high when you haven't been in a relationship in over two years. Try loosening up and realize that all of us, including you, have flaws sometimes crippling.
Picky? Or standards?
I find I'm oft called picky. I disagree. I think if we have standards and refuse to budge on them that it's a good thing. For us (we stick to principle) and for them (they get to be with someone not just settling). Otherwise it's called settling (which people insist we also not do).
Ultimately you've got to work at a pace you're comfortable with.
It might also be a fear of commitment? Perhaps? Only you would know if this is the case or not, of course, but might be worth some self-examination. ♥