Is it normal to be a loner?

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I'm in a high school now, but I'm kinda alone all the time. I don't really mind to be alone but I just can't stand the stares, gossips, hatreds by people all around me, and I don't know why. Whenever I walk alone in school or eating my lunch alone, I turn around and people are just staring at me and whispering to each other which I don't really get why. Is it really that abnormal or weird to be alone in high school? Because I am not really good in socializing in real life, I prefer it online, because I always get tongue tied when I try to speak which makes them think I am stupid and weird. Plus I don't look beautiful, is that what people hate to be friend with me? Majority of them just look down on me, I'm not trying to look down on myself too or being a paranoid but I just feel it that way. There's actually a friend of mine but we got separated from each other due to class streaming. She was my only friend earlier, then she introduced her gang to me but they just don't seem to welcome me. After we got separated, my friend which acts like a "bridge" between me and her gang has broken. There was also a few broken friendships I had earlier because I actually got treated like a "spare tyre" everytime, being ditched when they don't need me anymore, just like my "bridge" friend, she got to the same class with her gang again, and that's why she don't need me anymore. I feel numb, but sometimes it still hurts, that's why I am not good in socializing in real life anymore, it's too cruel for me. I'd rather to have friends online, they treat me much better than all of them in real life, and I'd rather to be alone in real life now.

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  • Shrunk
    9 years ago

    Same, I only made friends in high school to avoid exactly what you're mentioning. I feel kind of bad, I didn't really like my friends because we have nothing in common, I just had them so I'd have somewhere to sit at lunch and people to work with in group projects. I picked out the social-reject types because they were easy to befriend, and also I could sympathize with them having no one to talk to. On graduation i said goodbye and never talked to them again. that was like 6 years ago and I haven't made any real-life friends since. i just don't have the energy for it...

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    • pathetical
      9 years ago

      That's what exactly I'm facing now. Problem doing group projects and no place to sit at lunch. What I can do is wait for a group that doesn't have enough members to pick me, walking while eating my lunch (bread, cookies) if I can, or just skip my lunch and go to library instead.

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  • joong951
    9 years ago

    it's normal, in school I'm shy loner too just focus on your activities and grades. it's your choice to be an introvert sometime cause it's comfortable. just be with yourself

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  • AvrilLavigne
    9 years ago

    It's quite normal, coz I rather stay alone all the time. People always come and go, but getting along with them in order to build your little self is kinda good I guess. :)

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    I am also a loner. Empathy helps me to relate to people. Without it, people interpret my low social energy level as lack of interest.

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    I know how it feels. In school I was just like you. Never really fit in with anybody because I was uncomfortable around people and was pretty much the outcast of the school. I would go through my days not speaking one word to anybody. Sometimes I would wonder if I was even human. To this day I don't have any true friends, but it doesn't bother me much. If you're comfortable being alone then don't be ashamed just because you're "different" than most people.

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  • Bello
    9 years ago

    I was shy in high school too. I was always awkward talking to people and such. I wouldn't feel like I was a part of groups so I kind of just did my own thing. I was too big with playing online although I never really had friends online either.
    If being alone at school is what makes you feel comfortable, then let it be. If it's bothering you then make changes. Start talking to people and hanging around. It took me up until the prom cottage thing in grade 12 to kind of break out of my shell. I'm still a little shy but much better. Seriously though don't let others bother you because if I could go back to high school I would be completely different.

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  • Hoppy2015
    9 years ago

    Welcome to the party OP, sometimes I think about taking boxing lessons for the sole purpose of kicking one of their asses so they will back off. Out of my 16 years being on this planet, I have only found one girl who is addicted to me, and she is nice and normal, but not my type. I'm either getting with an awesome pretty girl or staying single the rest of my life. That is life's choice.

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