Is it normal to be a little irritated at this?

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I'm mad that my boyfriend may play a college sport that his friend pumped him up to play. I love him and all but I can't help but feel so irritated when I thing of how lazy he is the rest of the time when he gets handed oppourtunity after opp after opp and now he might do this. Firstly its no jealousy going on here,but the man doesn't have an original thought in his mind, its always others influencing him. Then he's on academic probation because he doesn't go to class, secondly, he'll get to register for classes first as a student athlete meanwhile I work my ass off to have opps that are few and far fukin between, get all the glory of being on the team as if he worked hard to get there or something(when he said himself he may do it because he'll just be doing the smallest laziest possible part), and he's just gonna be feeling himself when people compliment him in the sport,esp women.
I've been complimenting him since day one and all he still gives me is a smug "thank you" and it all irks me..its not jealously, its my man of 4 years but I'm not "happy" with this or him. All he does is bullshit his way through things and people just eat it up and I'm getting sick of it.

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  • OhStevieRaeee
    12 years ago

    If you aren't happy, end it. No point in being with someone you aren't happy with. It's not fair to you, or him.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Its just not that simple and dry.

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  • Crlmson
    12 years ago

    It sounds to me like you really do not like the man you are with. He is immature obviously which does not tell you much about what will end up happening in the future. You have to weigh this out and decide quickly if you are willing to wait. In the meantime his choices are his choices not yours. In fact trying to get someone to behave or act differently is futile and impossible. The only person that you have any control over whatsoever is you. Based on that make a decision and make a choice then accept the results of that. I once let someone go who I could not stand, I thought, had I waited a couple more years she turned out very nicely and is one of my best friends. We have a child together and she was my wife but fifteen years younger than me. I got impatient and did not accept my original choice of marrying her when I knew she was young and there would be challenges. I lost sight of my original reasons for choosing to marry her and that was because I loved her. It ended up a huge mistake in this case. But it might have just as easily gone the other way....Frankly though in your case not married and with all those issues I am wondering what keeps you with him at all you sound miserable and life is too short to be waking up each day that way.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thanks, I was never trying to change his decisions or anything like that, just fed up at his behavior . However u do make some valid points.

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  • joben112
    12 years ago

    seems ur just lucky to be out of the kitchen .. y are you complaining?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Idk but all this talk of kitchens is making me hungry

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    • rin
      12 years ago

      lol. I usually think this joke is old, overused and lame but it was funny this time.

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  • fralanasko
    12 years ago

    I hate being a girl

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    • rin
      12 years ago

      I love being a girl!

      I think it makes you a better person when things aren't just handed to you. You think in different ways, your more open minded and the intrinsic reward of your accomplishments feel 10 times better. These are the people who can do some good in the world.

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  • queenofsparkles
    12 years ago

    Yeah you're prolly feeling uncomfortable and unjustably inferior with your boyfriend shoved in the limelight w/o much efforts on his part. All that while you struggle to get by with your studies. It's time to talk to him seriously about it before his laisse faire attitude gets in the way of your relationship :)

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  • FussyCarrot
    12 years ago

    I'd say its normal for u to feel irritated cuz he kinda seems like the type that would let the attention of a colleg sport go to his head a little(I've seen it before).Id be a little ugh about it too if he's really the way it seems. U have a lot of hostility towards the situation but I think he should know how you are feeling about it,4 years is long, u gotta communicate to him if u are upset.

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