Is it normal? to be a jealous best friend?

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I know many say the male-female friendship is impossible, but I think I've broken through the barrier. My best friend is a guy, whom I love & would do anything for. We've only been friends for about a year or so but we've grown so close in that time frame. We talk about any & everything there is. From sex to sports, we keep nothing from each other. He's the "player" type & tells me about all his girls. I've never really cared to much for his girls & when he's in a relationship, I support it. His newest relationship seems to bother me A LOT & I don't know why. The girl gets around & through it all he seems to still want her & I can't stand it.I was cool w/the girl prior to getting this news, & now the sound of her name disgust me. I'm afraid that she'll slowly take him away from me & I'll lose him.I HATE that they're together & I hope it doesn't work. is it normal to be this jealous over a friends relationship?

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  • Allistalla
    11 years ago

    Im going to say this , best freinds tend to be pocessive and jealous over each other its like a unspoken bond that you own each other .. so yah its normol

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  • iindia
    12 years ago

    If you truly love someone you will let them go free. You sound like a wonderful friend in time it may be more. Let the other girls crash and burn.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    Yes, this is hard place for you to be, and it will only get worse if he continues to fall for her! Your time will become less and her time more. All you can do is be a friend and wait to help pick up the pieces, but be careful, you may just find yourself falling for him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    let him live his life if you value his friendship, friends want each other to be happy

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    You are in love with him? Or you just plan on keeping him as your watchdog for the rest of your life? Or like an emergency cock?
    in case of emergency, break the glass. You just can't take it because everytime he finds himself a girlfriend you don't get as many attentions as you used to.
    So you hope it doesn't work because that way, you'd start hanging out a lot again and talking about whatever it is you talk about. That is what happens when a person who is an important part of your life suddenly starts frowing distant because he or she found someone else he has to care more about.
    It so happens that you cannot get into that kind of close relationship with anybody else, so you start doing stuff to keep him on the leash, either knowing exactly what you are doing or without even realizing or simply hidijg the fact you are doing these things. Just like a wife would. You appeal to his need to confide himself with you, for example. So he ends up wanting to spend more time with you. But if he does so, his gf starts getting unhappy, because she has not got enough time to talk to him about more important couple stuff so their relationships never really get to the next level. It's nothing that uncommon really.
    And then you encourage him to think less of her by putting into discussion her morals while talking about sex, basically using every trick in the book to get him to basically break up with her, just so you don't lose the so called special kind of relationship you have with him. And avoid losing all the benefits and all the things either material or spiritual you are used to get from him. Including:
    The ride home, the protection against potentially too invasive guys, or who just don't treat you like you are the queen of the underworld.
    LET HIM GO ALREADY!

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