Is it normal to be a 30 yr old virgin?

Okay so I am a 30 year old virgin. I feel like a freak because of that fact. I want to wait to find the right guy but have found that most guys or at least the ones I find, Will not wait till I am ready. I havent officially been on a real date. Of course I dont consider myself pretty because of past situations with exs, being made fun of all through school, and being called fat all my life. I am 4'11 and a half and weigh 187, I know I am fat, think I am ugly but for some reason some guys say I am pretty. Anyway, I want to wait to be in love with someone before I have sex with them but I am always open with guys about being a virgin and most of them freak out. So is being a 30 year old woman who is a virgin normal? I like this guy who is 19 and dont wanna scare him away by telling him, any advice?

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47% Normal
Based on 268 votes (125 yes)
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  • cooler

    Don't be sad ,I'm 22years old man and I never had sex before, I just want to wait for the right one,

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  • Lynxikat

    Okay, why the hell are people so freaking obsessed about losing their virginity? Who the fuck cares? It's not going to be the end of the world if you never bang somebody.

    Also, why is it that whenever a young person, like and 18 or 20 year asks IIN to be a virgin, everyone says yes, but when an older person, like someone in their 30s asks the same question, it's not normal. Even thought OP has listed the same exact reason as those young adults had for never banging someone.

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    • Dasani

      That bugs me too. People seem to be down right mean towards the older virgins. Not sure why.

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      • Lynxikat

        I know- it's such a double standard :/

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  • Pandahpop

    mostly he is a virgin too, so don't worry about his opinion. also if he isn't a virgin, don't worry about his opinion. that's your own personal choice and there is nothing wrong with it. i have a friend who is 27 and she is still a virgin too. alot of people tell her should looks like natalie portman but with bigger boobs. she is a really slendor and beautiful girl, who has had plenty opportunities. but like you she's waiting for that special person. so don't worry about it. i say tell him and your physical relationship escalates. if he really likes you it won't be a problem

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3

    If a guy can't accept that you are a virgin, then he is not the right one for you. Wait for the right guy before losing your virginity, it iwill be much more special if you wait.

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  • queency89

    I'm a big girl. I find that there is nothing wrong with it. If you act happy and confident that's what attracts others. Just because you are big doesn't give you any less of a right to be happy.

    As you wait to be in love for sex it shows you respect your self and in turn you will get respect from him. If you don't move on to someone who treats you right. Don't settle for anything less than you deserve

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  • water223

    I think wanting to waite is normal but liking a 19 isn't!

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  • just-being-me2K11

    You need to find another 30 year old virgin to have sex with! Or ya know lower your stands or gimme a call and I'll fuck ya 07527553496

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  • MattyT36

    lol,46% say its normal...that means 46% of people on this site are full of shit....

    Just 10 more years, and they will make a movie about u,,,
    Dude <<MOVE OUT OF UR MOMS HOUSE AND HIRE A PROSTITUTE>>

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  • lalaland1122

    dont ever feel pressured into sex. if you wanna wait until you're in love then good for you. maybe you need to lower your standards a bit though so you can find some nice guys your own age? also i wouldnt tell guys i was a virgin unless it was necessary

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  • jenifferquits

    being normal or unusual dosent make it less right or more wrong ..i say do what you want to...and if you want to seriously fall in love with someone or want to be loved you have to be honest right from the start and if that person doesnt accept you he just doesnt deserve you and what the hell if you waited until now, waiting a little more isnt that bad right?..but in the end do what your heart tells you, it always knows the right answer

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  • Well he's 19 so theres a good chance he's a virgin too. That being said he might not mind because his lack of experience or he might run because you never swipe your v-card with a fellow puritan

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  • Alison89

    I don't think it's "normal" to be a 30-year-old virgin, but there's also nothing wrong with it, unless you don't want to be a virgin any more.

    If I were you, I wouldn't focus on being a virgin like it was some kind of disability or disease.

    If this guy wants to go out with you and you want to go out with him, then go out with him when he asks you. When a guy asks you out, you don't have to have sex with him. You don't even have to explain to him how you feel about sex.

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  • mark777

    Being 30 and still a virgin means that there is something wrong. doesn't make you a bad person but seriously, there is a problem here and you are missing out on a big part of your life. I don't know how to help but you should get help.

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    • Lynxikat

      How does that mean there's something wrong with her? Because she never met the right person to lose it to then that means there's something wrong with her?

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      • mark777

        I'm sorry that was a bit rude and unconstructive, let me try some constructive criticism. practice with a hotdog

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        • Lynxikat

          I'm sorry you didn't seem to get what I was saying, let me try simpler words- you're being a dick.

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          • mark777

            thankyou

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  • volozi

    30yo, 4'11, and 187? I'd hit that. Seriously though, I like some curves.

    I think you're limiting yourself by waiting until you're in love for sex, but that's your choice.

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