Is it normal to be a 21 year old male virgin?

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For the longest time i have been perplexed by this but i am 21 years old and still have my virginity. When i am around a girl i just feel overall nervous and anxious. I could care less if people think i'm weird for it but i just have a hard time picturing myself having sex with a girl that i am not planning on totally opening up too and it's hard to find a girl that i feel that comfortable around because i am shy and have a hard time acting normal, at ease, and confident with myself when i'm around a girl that i'm attracted too. I feel like there is too much pressure on me to take the big dive especially when i am out with friends and there are girls around, i feel like everyone is kind of watching to see if i make an ass of myself and i am scared that i'll end up like the 40 year old virgin! It's like a viscious cycle of being shy and self conscience leads to more dwelling on the fact that i'm just doomed to be a virgin. Any tips or suggestions are appreciated.

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  • dontletmefall
    13 years ago | pl

    i find this super attractive :)

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    • Jeci_Cassidy
      13 years ago | pl

      I agree with you 100% I find it attractive too.

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      • very_curious
        13 years ago

        I find it attractive too!! >u<
        If only there were more guys like him! <3

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  • prljavo
    13 years ago | pl

    I have a friend who's 23 and still a virgin and everything's fine with him. Except that he could get laid, but that's his choice to make. So, likewise, it's your choice to make when to do it.

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  • ladyday
    13 years ago

    don't worry about it dude. you just need to get out more. find a hobby and go meet people. you'll find someone to love.

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  • webjock
    13 years ago | pl

    I am thirty-seven and still a virgin!

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    • bises
      13 years ago

      awww:)

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  • timebobbu
    13 years ago

    according to the story, its more normal to be a virgin at 21 than 18. so Ironic.

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  • Omega-Claws
    13 years ago

    I was 21 when I lost mine, I felt the same way as you.

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  • Jeci_Cassidy
    13 years ago

    My husband was a virgin until we got married ^_^ but so was I. He was 20 when we married. So your fine ^_^ your just waiting for the right person, even if you don't know it. So smile and keep yur head held high, because at least you know your pure ^_^

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    • very_curious
      13 years ago

      omg that is so cute!! ^_^

      I hope you two have a happy and long marriage! ^_^

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  • Schythl
    13 years ago

    It's normal.

    Next!

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  • Pepperandsalt29
    13 years ago

    Don't worry dude it's normal:)

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  • drummajor
    13 years ago

    What's your phone #?

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  • darkprince
    12 years ago

    of course its normal.. its better to wait for that special someone.. and get hitched..i hate people who harbor the hit it and quit it mentality ..jerks

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  • Roseburg
    13 years ago

    I'm with the girls who are saying that this is super attractive. I think it's more "normal"
    than getting some where ever and whenever you can ~ like a lot of guys at my college. At least the experiance is going to mean something when you share it with someone special.

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  • Juj
    13 years ago

    Haha girls like it as you can obviously tell.. sex isn't everything it's good to want that connection with someone first.. Just pleaseee don't find someone your comfortable with and have sex with them right away just because you want to have sex. Then you'll turn into the typical douchebag, that's what happens.
    But I say don't think about being nervous or trying to talk to girls when your out and about.. it makes it worse.

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  • Rachelle_InHighHeels
    13 years ago

    Nothing wrong with that at all...
    I'm no "prude" by any stretch of the imagination, I'm a VERY long time married, crossdresser with a supportive, understandin, accepting, knowledgeable, and helpful wife, who has taught me all the traits to emulate women.
    Too many people, make far too much out of sexual experiences...True, it's all very wonderful, but the sun will still rise in the east and set in the west if one doesn't partake.
    Rachelle

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  • dollcandy
    13 years ago

    Completely normal. Do things on your time and everyone else can just go f themseleves and get a disease while at it!

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  • Str8edge4lyf
    13 years ago

    im exactly like u in every way. we'll find someone some day.:)

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  • guttermoth
    13 years ago

    Save it for someone you wanna be with.

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  • I_am_not_normal
    13 years ago

    Hooker? Sorry, I had to..

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  • NorthKorea
    13 years ago

    just go to a bar and hook up with a slut. that might make you less nervous when you are talking to a you like:)

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  • jroscom
    13 years ago

    Stop trying and just do.

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  • dragonfly810
    13 years ago

    absoulutly NORMAL! don't give it 2 a female on your first time, find a male-mate.

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  • nacholibre
    12 years ago

    You'll be fine. At one point I was afraid it would never happen for me either, but in the end I'm glad I waited for someone special.

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  • unrose
    13 years ago

    I'm the same exact way down to the last detail except that I'm nineteen and a female, so it's normal to me.

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  • bises
    13 years ago

    you're so cute!!! you're probably unconsciously waiting for the right one. you'll find her. don't think about it so much. just get out there and live your life. it'll happen

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  • MiraviDesu
    13 years ago

    Same here, but I'm a 22 yr old female. And just like you not wanting to be the 40 yr old virgin... I don't wanna be the old cat lady in the appartment below you banging on the ceiling cuz you have your tv too loud and it upsets my cats :-/

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  • snowboy3781
    13 years ago

    Are you sure its just apprehension? You may be a late bloomer or could you be unsure of your sexual identity? Its okay I was that way when I was young and it turned out I just like guys. No big deal.

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  • Mikael
    13 years ago

    omfg dude lett a guy nanl u ahhaha jux do it

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  • goodep
    13 years ago

    Sounds like you are afraid of intimacy. Get some therapy.

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  • mx27
    13 years ago

    so normal!

    i was a virgin until i was 23. then i met the right girl, and now we have fantastic amazing gratifying sex all the time :)

    just don't hold out too long, if you meet the right person, go for it

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  • jbmitchell999
    13 years ago

    If you talk like you write, she'll never get a word in!

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