Is it normal to be a 25 year-old male virgin?

Well, I am almost a 25 year-old male virgin. I am coming up on it, but anyway.

I have actually never been in a relationship or on a date in my life. I haven't ever been kissed either. Well, except for family members, I guess. But that doesn't count. Anyway, the reasons as to why it hasn't happened pretty much are consistent for me. The first and primary reason is pretty much that I am a guy who loves Jesus, wants to live for Him, and is committed to strive for chastity also. I always feel wary saying that because I feel people are going to make fun of me for it (please don't), but that is the truth about me. That is my primary motivation, but even before age 21 when I gave my life to Christ, I never had been on a date or anything. I didn't even go to prom, just to tell you. That was for one big reason and my 2nd primary reason: I'm not a social person.

I simply wasn't outgoing in high school or college. I focused all on my studies, and that helped me get great grades in school to make the honor roll. I kept to myself and never went to parties or soirees that would have lots of people. I was described by most people as a nice guy because I never would drink and do drugs, but as a nice guy I was finishing last. It was basically because I was shy or whatever. Throughout all my high school, I hung out with the outcasts and nerdy kids. I was a dork, and I admit that now. My friday nights consisted of staying at home, playing video games, and using the computer. I know, not that exciting but that was my life, or should I say my life still.

The funny part about that is that my social life hasn't changed and it's been almost 7 years later. I just have pursued Jesus as my first love. That has changed. My social life hasn't, however. Sometimes I wwould like to have it change, but I don't want to do the typical things of "go to the bar or nightclub". I don't want to do that, honestly. It's just not my place or arena. I honestly am not a condemning person as a Christian, but I just don't do those things. Since those are the top places, I really don't know about having a social life.

I honestly don't even know about my virginity either. I mean, I struggle with being a 25 year-old guy who hasn't ever had a woman kiss me, let alone touch and hug me. I often crave both, and it's not just about the sex. I want the intimacy, with some beautiful woman saying she loves me and will stay with me for the long-term. I have never truly desired to use a woman just for sex. I have always wanted to find a girl to marry and genuinely love. So I want to remain a virgin until I find one. Sometimes, however, it hurts to think about never being kissed in my life. I have desired my first kiss for such a long time, believe me.

On some occasions, I feel like I cannot wait to finally experience love. Yet, I cannot deny, being single hasn't been all bad for me. Actually, I can say I enjoy my singleness on many occasions. I can actually focus on priorities and service to Jesus that I probably am free to pursue because I am single. I get to enjoy things without someone basically unattached, per se. So single life has had its fun, lots of it to boot! I often hope I could be single the rest of my life without a care. However, the lonesome nights feel like a killer oftentimes. Having someone to hold and having someone to hold me would be a nice change for once in my life. This, I am in a dilemma. Single or find a relationship. It's like I cannot pick.

Even if were to pick relationship, however, I imagine it wouldn't be the easiest venture for me. I have so many drawbacks that wouldn't be helpful or conducive to finding a girlfriend at all. I am not an outgoing person, as I said before. I probably wouldn't truly engage a woman anyhoo. Words and conversation just have never come easily to me, quite frankly. I think I'd probably bore the girl to death. I have never tested that, but I just think it true. Plus, I am not some heartthrob in terms of physical attractiveness. If you looked at me, you would say the same. I'm over six feet tall, but I am also really skinny. I am a thin non-muscular black guy. I don't have a great physique by Hollywood standards that would make ladies pay attention. I like being skinny, but most people don't. I guess that is my 2nd deal. Add on my low-paying job and I sound like quite the winner <sarcasm>.

The final big drawback would definitely have to be my virginity. According to most studies, most people would have already lost their virginity by my age, with only 3% being virginity at my now "advanced" age. I have also heard people turned down because they were a virgin for whatever reason. Add on the kissless, dateless part and I am sure to be basically snubbed. I bet she would think about me as some freak of nature. I would think girls are creeped out by virgin guys. So I feel insecure about still being a virgin. Add on the fact that as a Christian I want to be basically be celibate until marriage, and I'd send everyone running the opposite direction. It almost feels like now I find myself without anyone, and my personal convictions will continue to make it so. I'd like to feel more comfortable being a virgin, but that hasn't really been happening for me lately.

I feel like I have a V attached to me where everyone can see. My virginity sometimes makes me feel like a huge loser, and there are thoughts to just get rid of my virginity in any way possible (including paying). I am thinking it would get me past the horrible stigma that virginity seems to bring on me. That loser tag would forever be rid of, right? I know it would reek of hypocrisy being a Christian guy to see some prostitute, but I am just becoming more and more desperate as the days pass by. I feel like it's becoming a more viable option.

Plus, I would finally get to experience some kind of romantic affection. I may not ever get married and be single for my whole life, so wouldn't a prostitute (or escort as some are called) be better than nothing, right? I've dreamed of finally holding a woman and having a woman hold me and kiss me too, and I feel like I feel so deprived of it now. It feels so hard to imagine the rest of my life not ever having it. I'd probably go so insane, more insane than I am now. I find myself saying maybe just one time. Try it one time. Yet at the same time, I know what God says about it, and I know that answer. I want to also do that. I want to remain a virgin too. I want to be wait until I am married (if it were to happen for me). It's just not easy to pick that. So my dilemma continues.

That's why I wrote this question. I want some other opinions. My questions are simple: Are male virgins weird? Is a 25 year-old virgin weird? And finally, am I weird? Advice please.