Is it normal to be a 19 virgin and never had a boyfriend?

I'm 19 and I've always been to an all girls school. I've just finished my first semester of college and i feel like no guys have been interested in me in that way AT ALL. People always said to me 'just wait till u get to college...they will be queuing up!' I mean there was one guy who i thought i liked but turned out to be a loser and go off with another girl. I really dont know whats wrong with me. I'm chatty, have a good personality and I'm funny. All of my friends have boyfriends or have had previous relationships and I seem to be the only one left on the shelf. I feel that because of my all girl education and not being around boys much, there is a certain amount of catch up that i have placed on myself. However this does not explain as to why guys are never interested in me. Im feeling really depressed and low about this, and would love some advice.

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  • orinoco

    It is a silly comment to say "...they will be queuing up". It helps for the moment but nourishes expectations which may result in disappointment as your case shows. Do not wait for the queue...

    I had the same experience but I am male. I believe that you can't find any reason why a boy should not want to come closer to you (as I couldn't find such a reason at that time with respect to myself). This is not a question of rational reasoning. Some people have more of that inexplicable "substance" in their personality which attracts the other gender, some people less. I had less of it, and I found it hard to accept that. It is not a matter of measures or anything you may quantify. As long as the topic of sexual relationship with a girl was not touched, everything else worked out nicely in my life at that age. It took longer for me, but then a most charming girl became my girl friend, and a whole new world opened up for me. And I even have friends where this never happened. There is no warranty... At 19 it is far too early to be concerned although the desire is clearly there and can in no way be ignored. Sure.

    I don't know if your life will develop similarly, but I can say: I know how you feel although I am not female. Later on, I kept my eyes open to understand better what was going on between men and women. I found that it is a small minority of people who continuously attract glances and have those queues in front of their homes. The vast majority is happy to find the one who really wants them. Don't believe what people pretend. What you see are all those couples, but this is because - yes, they may be quicker than you (as they were quicker then me at the time), but also - they (seem to) have what you desire! This is why it catches your eyes. You could easily find less "glamorous" people who are alone as you feel. But you don't look out for them: It is more natural to look out for what you wish to have then for what you don't want...

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    • richgg

      I lost my virginity when i was 14 years old, i just lost it with a 20year old american, now i regret doing it, now i want my virdinity back so i can loose it with someone i care off,SO GIRL dont give it to anybody, Im a guy by the way

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    • BugzBunnae

      There is nothing wrong with being a virgin! NOTHING! don't listen to anything people tell you wrong. and about never having a boyfriend, NEVER SAY NEVER! You just have to be yourself, be confident, if you are what you say you are then all you need to do is take the steps. You would be surprised at who would be interested. There is someone out there girl, don't you give up. I am younger than you but I found my prince charming :) and he did NOT seem or look like one when I first met him, but I am glad I looked deep inside of him, found his personality and gave him a chance. We are a year going strong

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  • Cherrybombpieee

    If u want a fast solution go to a pub alone a guy is eventually gonna hit u up congratulations no more virginity

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  • peterrabbyt2

    Suck some cock and live a little. Did you know that if you swallow a man's cum it will give you shiny hair? Try it and see and don't worry about everyone elses stupid fucking opinions on here. Suck first and see, you will still be a virgin too when you are done swallowing that fine cum down your pretty throat. I love you! You have a great chance ahead of you for a wonderful life.

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  • demonlord

    be a slut and suckaniggadick

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  • mercede

    stay a virgin. Take it from someone who knows. If i know what i knew now i would have stayed one. Focus on your education. Females will never admitt it but a women can be good looking and sexi and get any guy she wants,,but throw in a virgin as her competitor and i bet you the virgin will win. Beacuse no matter how confident the non-virgin seems. She doesnt have sh*t on the virgin. Virgins are overly confident because they never have to second guess themselfs. They say exactly what is on their mind and yet they are still nieve which is sexy to a man. The non virgin has to manipulate the man into thinking we are innocent as can be so the confidence is not there,it if fabricated. Virgins are confident and undistracted by a man so she comes off intruiging and harder to get. the mixture of confidence and nieve innocese is the ultimate package to a man

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  • Rhuarc

    Remember dont rush ANYTHING.

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  • povich031

    You have mentioned that your funny, chatty, and nice but what are your stats. If your 4' tall and 3' wide with a curved spin that might have something to do with it.

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  • goldsburg2010

    I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I'M A MAN AND I HAVE A HARD TIME GETTING A WOMAN. SO TO ME PEOPLE ONLY LIKE LOSERS, THUGS, GANGSTERS,AND BAD BOYS OR BAD GIRLS. US, ''GOOD PEOPLE'' CAN'T FOUND SOMEONE. BUT DON'T WORRY, ONE DAY YOU WILL GET YOUR SOULMATE. GOOD THINGS COMES TO THE ONES WHO WAIT. JUST DON'T GIVEUP.AND DON'T BE IN A HURRY!

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  • The fact that people even ponder that being a virgin at 19 isn't normal shows what state the world is in. Don't worry about it, you shouldn't have sex with someone just to get it over with.

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  • rhaegar

    You should be glad some horny loser of a guy hasn't taken your virginity. I predict you will get asked to a dance this spring.

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  • BigDaddyDave05

    Hey dont worry about it. Your 19, there is no reason to hurry up and lose your virginity. Trust me you will want to wait until you find that special guy which might take longer than you want, and let him be your first. Im honestly surprized guys are lineing up to get with you once they find out your a virgin. Not to just to be the one to sleep with you. Because you dont sleep around means you are a very mature girl. I am a 23yr old male, and i would love to find a girl like you. I agree with LoveLVR. Well i dont know about how it feels,lol but everything else i agree with. Dont worry about it.

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  • alexisfreak

    OK. This is weird. Maybe all the guys you know are losers and afraid to hit on you. You should start flirting with guys. Then they will get comfortable around you.

    I am a guy, by the way.

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    • LoveLVR

      You shouldn't really be worried about it as much as you are.. First of all girl to girl the first time is sooooo horrible, it hurts and doesn't really even feel good the first few times.. , and to wait as long as you have its a wonderful thing and you have strong will power. I hope everything turns out well for you.. God Bless You!

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