Is it normal to be 17 and still have not come out of the closet?

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Okay, so I'm a 17 year old bisexual girl and a senior in high school. Most of my LGBT friends have come out and I don't have any friends that I know of who are still "In the closet" I flirt with girls and guys and a lot of people know me to have a flirtatious personality. The thing is I just haven't come out yet so if I do flirt with girls its because I think they're cute. But my friends just think that's just "me". I'm going to college next year and I really feel like I need to be true to myself. I'm just not sure how to come out yet and I'm scared what people would think or say about me, including my parents. I feel like I'm the only one who's going through this crap and it's hard. Is it normal to be this age (17, senior in hs) and still haven't come out as a bisexual girl yet? Help :\

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    I'm 21 and only very few people know. I'm not open about it. I'm also a bisexual girl so trust me I know what you are going through...

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  • nymphie
    13 years ago

    I think it's normal. People should come out when they're ready, at least in my opinion. There is nothing wrong with not telling people till you feel comfortable with it!

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  • sheat
    11 years ago

    it okay if your are... some people their against it but who cares just enjoy life and no matter who is against or how many people judge you. you are who your are and just don't lie to parents because they have to know someday at the beginning maybe their going to be shock or not believe, but parents are parents and they want the best for children their going to accept you because parents love their children and maybe is going to be hurt.. wished you the best

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  • Bubbles-for-life
    11 years ago

    How are you even going to school if your in a closet???… Jk lol

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  • Alysin
    11 years ago

    I'm 18 and I still haven't come out to my parents
    I was really scared to be myself until I was 17 cause of what people would think
    But it's actually a lot easier to come out to friends and random people
    You don't have to throw it in peoples faces or anything, just tell them if they ask or something
    They don't care unless they're homophobic

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    • mz_suzette4k9
      11 years ago

      At age 18... I'm positive that it's NOT wise to blow your parents minds and also take a chance of possibly being disowned as well. One other thing too, it's best to make sure your friends are really your friends.

      I'm 38 now but I had dozens of friends when I was your age in High School and like a dork I told too many of my so-called friends my personal likes or dislikes wayyyyy too much. As a result I was humiliated quite a few times by people I thought were my friends but who in actuality were just acquaintances, and some who should have been considered enemies of mine who ruined my day quite a bit by opening their big mouths.

      If you have any more questions feel free to contact me dear, I'm not a big mouth and learned that it's sometimes wiser to seek advice from an older more experienced woman who's made some WRONG decisions in life and had to deal with the consequences of them.

      I hope I didn't share too much...
      Hugsss
      Sue

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    It's normal. When I was about 11, I thought I was gay and "came out" to people I thought were my friends. It backfired and that fall and onward I was bullied over it. It got so bad, that I started to consider suicide. Well, I had attempted it during the summer of that year...

    Anyway, it got better and stopped. Now, I'm in my late teens and I know I'm bisexual. I'm still wary about coming out for fear that history will try to repeat itself again. I have told about four of my friends and It was well received:)

    Just take your time and tell someone when you feel comfortable around them and when you can trust them enough. Good Luck:)

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  • SEWnanist23
    12 years ago

    Come out to those you're comfortable around. I like to confess to people who I'm comfortable admitting to that I love to masturbate more than have sex.

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  • ValerieTDL
    12 years ago

    It's normal if you havent yet, but I think you should come out. If youre afraid your friends will leave you theyre not really your friends, I've got 4 friends, 2 girls 2 boys, theyre Bi, but I'm not concerned at all the those girls will hit on me or anything xP

    Just call youre closest friends together and tell them... THA TRURH SON!

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  • MiszNii
    12 years ago

    very normal, I'm 18 and just graduated last month the only people who know about my attraction for girls are my boyfriend and my closest friends! I say little things on twitter but I just don't want people to think I'm doing this for attention or to fit in because me and my bestfriend decided to "come-out" together !

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i am not biosexual but yes it is normal come out when you feel its time (-:

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    its actually really normal to be curious at that age. your hormones are still settling and a lot of girls actually grow out of it. i wouldnt tell anyone else until you are completely sure and not just because you think girls are cute. go out with a few girls first before calling yourself bisexual.

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    • hipsterforlife
      13 years ago

      I mean I have hooked up with a couple of girls before and I'm sure it's not just a "phase" or whatever people call them. & I do date girls but it's just not necessarily public, ya know?

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