Is it normal to be 20 and single and...

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Is it normal to be 20 Almost 21 and to; be a virgin, to have never been in a relationship, And Never been kissed? I mean I've never really been asked out on a date by a guy near my age, the only man who ever asked me out was 34 and I didn't really like the thought of that... And I'm kind of shy when it comes to the thought of dating. I don't even really attempt flirting because I don't really know how and I don't like too. And I always think guys will look at me and think I'm stupid I'm trying to flirt with them. And I've had quite a few people tell me I shouldn't feel this way because I'm really beautiful and I'm funny, but I can't bring myself to believe that... Is it normal for me to feel like this and for me to have never experienced a relationship or even a first kiss?

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  • barfo
    13 years ago

    Oh man, this is so normal. Me too except for the kissing thing because there was an arrogant asshole a while back who tried to convince me "I wasn't being open enough". Believe me, wait until it feels RIGHT!

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    13 years ago

    It's normal to be a virgin at your age... Seriously, there are posts asking the same question on this site every single day.

    If you want to change it, start approaching more guys, even ones you may not be 100% interested in. Dating guys for the sake of just getting out there and dating would really help you build your confidence around men.

    Tip: Don't tell guys on your first date (or two) that you are so inexperienced - let them get to know the real you first before you start pointing out any perceived personal flaws. Lots of chicks tend to blab on and on about themselves like that too much during dates.

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  • RudolfoPrince
    10 years ago

    I'm 21-year-old guy and I'm in the same boat. *fist bump*

    What sucks more than not knowing what it's like is the status it gives you in a society that puts so much damn emphasis on sex and being in a relationship. :/

    Put yourself out there? There are two girls I like at that moment! Haha. Just find a guy you like, and grab the bull by its horns, baby, and tame that beast. :P

    Good luck!!!! :)

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  • hrsa97
    13 years ago

    I am a 21 year old virgin and proud of it. honestly it is hard to tell if a guy is interested. If you have any guy friends maybe they can help you out.

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  • theonewiththehair
    13 years ago

    I was basically the same. And the older the I got never having been in a relationship or having been kissed made me feel more and more insecure. It didn't take my bf long to figure it out either. I was really embarrassed about it, but it didn't matter to him. As for being a virgin, soooo normal. Lots of 20 (almost 21) year olds are virgins. And you sound like a sensible person who isn't going to just sleep with a random guy in desperation to not be a virgin anymore, so all I'm going to say is be patient. All your firsts only come once so you want them to feel right.

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  • luicyyou
    13 years ago

    Yea theres actually a lot more people out there like this than you think!!with this situation and all like the only real serious boyfriend I had was alot older than me Ive hooked up with a lot of guys but kind of the same thing ...dont worry your like a prized possesion in the world today youll find someone soon I promise ! :}

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  • ven067
    13 years ago

    I'm a guy and I don't see anything wrong with you being a virgin. You just probably never saw a reason to be in a relationship.
    The best thing you can do if you want to change is to be more open. Talk to more guys, you don't even have to like them sexually or emotionally. Just talk for the sake of talking, this will get you used to talking to guys and be around them. And you don't have to do it alone. Take a group of friends with you and go out. When you get more familiar with men you can start to try finding someone to connect with emotionally and develop it into a deeper relationship.

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  • St.Clair59
    13 years ago

    I dated only one guy when I was 19 but there was no real love. I know how you feel though...but however, being a virgin is a good thing!

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