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I only have a few friends that I talk to regularly. And when I say regularly it's more like once or twice a week.
Some of them I only see at baby showers, birthdays and funerals.
is this normal for someone my age or is it time for me to seriously start working on my social life?
I'm a little younger but I also have very few friends. A lot of people have disappointed me over the years, and I prefer to only keep real people close to me. The vast majority of people are fake and users. In the end you can only depend on God, yourself and your family.
I just finished writing a huge comment so I'll be blunt. 99% of the people you will meet in your life will be dicks, you found the 1% that are not.
I think its normal. I am turning 40 soon. I have very few "close friends"--as in those you would speak to more than 1x every 2 weeks or so. hate to tell you, but at time moves on, people get older, and just stop calling as much. in college me and some of these same friends called each other constantly, talking every night in some cases. it just changes. best thing you can do is find activities/interests and lots of new "acquaintance" friends to hang out with in the time you do have. those old special friends are still there, but i think we start to just get older and not talk as much.
i agree though, it sucks. a lot.
haha mate I only got a few close friends and I'm just 19... except I see them many times in a week. I would think about working on a few close friendships rather than making many regular ones, their the ones that really matter.
I'm 33 and I ask the same question to myself when I allow my life to slow down enough to think about this point...
I just think that if you are a person who wants genuine caring friendships without all the bullshit, it's actually really hard to find (unless you live in Byron Bay)
I have found over the years that it can be the really egoic showy people who end up with lots of friends, which says to me they probably don't have wholesome friendships anyway? E.g. people they can really count on if help is needed
Sounds like you need a dog. Friends make you put up with a lot of shit, and from this perspective, dogs are very good friends.
I agree...as long as you are happy and content then I see no need for change. I am 31 and I keep very few "actual" close friends and I find that life has become more enjoyable and drama free! I was the type with dozens of "close" friends around at all times....I suddenly realized it was just annoying.