Is it normal to be 35 and never really lived?

If you don't interested in other people. They won't be interested at you too. Don't be too conscious about yourself, you will see the difference.

Unfortunately, beyond university, all of a sudden it becomes a lot harder to meet new people at the workplace. You will get along well with your colleagues (or not), but it's just not the same as before when life was carefree.

If you've never really been that close to your university friends, then you're probably feeling that you have no friends at the moment. I agree with a previous poster. Really, the way to do this is to join clubs and make new friends from there on. What are your hobbies and interests?

I think the best way to get to know others is to take part in some activities. Think of something you would like to learn or do and then explore opportunities to get involved in your community. For example: take a yoga class; learn to dance; take an art class at a museum; take a photography class as a university extension class (not for credit); take a cooking class; volunteer at the food pantry; volunteer at the hospital; volunteer as a mentor at a school. I believe if you are involved in life....you will meet others who probably are doing things that you like, too. When you meet others, keep conversations going....and it might lead to some friendships. If you are open to friends....and I believe you are, if you put yourself in situations where you will meet people who are like you, I believe friendships will come to you in your life. Good luck.

Being educated and successful doesn't automatically make you interesting. What do you do for fun?

Hi ! You seem to be a mirror image ( though there are a few exceptions). I think you need to 'loosen up' a little. Take yourself a little less seriously. Make a bit of time for things other than work. Listen to your instincts. Perhaps people are getting overawed by your degrees and your success. Or maybe you are not really empathising and listening to other people when they speak. Try to connect to to others, and then maybe a miracle may happen!
Cheers!

Japanese girls don't want to live in North America or europe and they don't want a non-Japanese husband. The Japanese economy is doing well and no one is living in poverty. Plus, Japanese are racist against any non-Japanese people. They find our entertainment 'entertaining' and they long for big eyes and blond hair but besides that, if a Japanese woman became pregnant with a non-Japanese 'even a Chinese or Korean' baby, it would either call for an abortion or give the baby away. I know all of this because I was married to a Japanese/caucasian man who was treated as if invisible by his japanese extended family and ridiculed at school his whole youth. So he finally had enough and moved to Canada. His family was weathy enough that he was greeted by immigration with arms open. Sorry to change the subject, I just hate seeing misinformation.

"I'm 35, ok looking, friendly, successful, and really smart."

That's like,your opinion.

"I've never had a girlfriend in my life"

That says it all.

"I don't have any friends who live in the city where I live."

Maybe you are just not the kind of guy everyone wants to be around for some obscure reason.

"I have attended two of the best and most famous universities in the world"

That makes you very attractive.Not really.

"I'm great at my job, I own my own home, and I have been told that I have a great heart"

What is this?A speedate? I can use a great heart tho.Mine is kind of failing.

"I feel very lonely and that people don't want to speak with me."

I wonder why.Do you wonder why?

"I'm always by myself,either reading or working on something."

You are the only one who knows what you are working on.I assume it's not something you want someone to know.

"I do talk to others,but they don't show much interest."

Yeah,what were you saying?

"What can I do?"

Mail order Russian/Japanese bride.
I heard they are cheap.