Is it normal to be 22 and never been kissed/romantically involved?

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I'm 22. I've never been kissed. People have had crushes on me/wanted to kiss me, but I've never reciprocated their attraction. I meet people in relationships and I get angry because they are not as attractive, yet they've had like 12 boyfriends. My parents are immigrants who are arranging my marriage and continue to tell me I can't have guy friends. So I feel like if I betray my parents' trust, this guy has to be really worth it. Is my lack of love life normal given these circumstances?

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  • Vyzr
    13 years ago

    Why would they wanna do that? You're in america, its a free counrty. You should live your life the way you want. Dont be controlled by your parents, they might think its best for you but you only live one life so use it the way you wanna.

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    • WolfDog
      13 years ago

      She didn't say she was from America. She could be in Antarctica for all you know.

      Judging by the way I see American news in Australia, your so called 'free country' is slowly disappearing.

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      • Vyzr
        13 years ago

        And judging by your stupidity you haven't noticed, i dont care. Youre in another country what do you know? And how exactly is our freedom disappearing? You are a dumb ass who thinks he knows everything. Maybe you should notice, the news is ridiculous when its not the onion! And even if she's not in America she should still live her life the way she wants. And no one lives in Antarctica stupid. They dont have internet down there! And i've watched the news recently too, apparently youre "dumb brain" is slowly disappearing. Why do you think you know about a country that you've only seen in the news? We are alot better than other countries and just because our country is having a hard time who cares, it'll be fixed. Dont act like other countries have never had problems.

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        • rulerofthenight
          13 years ago

          ugh I can't belive I am even from the same country as you. YOU are the epitome of The sterotypical ignorant american who thinks he know everything jut because he lives in America. What the hell do you even know about other countries? Nothing.AS to how our freedom is dissapearing? I am sure if you put something else on the TV other than the fuckin Kardashians you would know how big of a fuckin problem we've got going on in America. I am glad you have such confidence on our government, when all most of them are is sluts to their fucking multi-billion dollar lobbyist.

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          • Vyzr
            13 years ago

            lol you sure are hoe like arent ya, im not a stereotype you are. I dont judge people but you just judged me so doesnt that make you the stereotype? I dont fucking watch the kardashians bish, maybe think about watching something on tv other than the douche bags of orange county for once? would that possibly help your conceited brain realize everything isnt in black and white? wtf do you think is going on here? Just because our country isnt perfect doesnt mean its bad, do you think perfect is good? no its not its boring. if you had one cent of your own will youd know that.

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  • mebaby
    8 years ago

    Uhm well i cannot relate to your situation but i myself am 2 days away from being 26 and ive never been romanticly involved with someone or kissed.
    Same not by lack of interested partys.

    Sooo yeh its possible and your not alone.

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  • Koda
    8 years ago

    Kissing only feels good when you really like the person anyway. So you didn't miss anything with those boys you didn't like.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    Alright, I think that Oli kinda has a point, because sometimes it isn't just the looks that people are after. Maybe they weren't as pretty as you, but they might have an appealing characteristic that you don't have. But I don't think you're a stuck up bitch for that, however, I do see how someone could think that. And I do see where you're coming from. It's normal for we, as humans, to look at certain people who we might think aren't that attractive and wonder, how do they do it?

    I have a friend who's in the same boat as you. She's albanian and her family strongly wants to arrange her marriage as well. She hasn't kissed anyone yet either, and she openly told me something very similar as to what you have mentioned. It bothers her.

    I know that you probably can't change the fact that your parents are set on arranging your marriage, and even though I personally believe that it's a little on the extreme side to begin with, I also believe that it's not a crime for them to care so much enough to want to find you the "perfect" guy. It sounds like you really care about your parents, and respect their wishes as well. So I can understand why you're in search of "mr. right", you even said it that you don't wanna let them down. But just remember that you do have a say in your own love life, and even frienships too. A lot of these guys that you could be sending away, might actually have some great underlying qualities that aren't as noticeable right away. Instead of kinda throwing them away, try giving them more of a chance, and actually look within. Its sometimes hard to see great things in people, because sometimes they're in hiding.

    I think if you do find someone who you like enough to actually take that risk by introducing them to your parents, talk to them about it first, and give them a little warning as well as the guy about what to expect. Sometimes you might have to come right out and mention the "good" qualities that the guy has if you know that they'll have trouble seeing it. And reassure your parents that their plans have still not been discarded.

    Maybe you could talk with them about, I don't know, leniency. I think they should try and get some. You don't have to be rude about it, and change their wishes completely, but at the same time, they should cut you some slack. And at least when it comes to guy friends.

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