Is it normal to barely have friends?

I only have about four friends. Everybody I know has at least 20 friends and everybody likes them, but it seems like no one cares about me. I only have a few friends, and we don't talk much. Most people I know text each other constantly, and I hardly get texts at all. I've gone entire weeks without having anyone talk to me, and I don't understand why no one wants anything to do with me. I'm a nice person, I'm hardly ever mean to anyone. I don't understand where I went wrong. Maybe I'm not meant to have friends. I've never had a girlfriend either.

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  • bronte_91

    That is exactly like me only I'm a girl and have never had a boyfriend. I only have four friends too. I would consider them very close friends though and even if we don't text each other constantly I feel as though they will be there for me when I need them. I don't really bother with acquaintances because I know that we would drift apart anyway so it seems pointless for me to even bother.

    Perhaps you are a bit shy and hard to get to know? I think that is part of my problem. I am always afraid of being too forward with people or being to clingy/needy so I tend to keep my distance to some extent. Do you make an effort to call/text your friends or do you wait around for them to make the first move? That's something I tend to do and I think it is important to show your friends that you are really interested in their lives and want to spend time with them in order to get that same treatment in return.

    I sometimes wonder if I'm socially retarded or something but I'm pretty sure I'm a fairly decent person. I never really fit in with any groups at high school so maybe I'm just a bit odd. Either way, I think it is just important for us to be ourselves and things will sort themselves out :) You sound like a kind and caring person so don't worry too much! Good luck :D

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    • CinnamonToast

      You should meet him. Maybe you were meant for each other. :)

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  • Sharonkay63

    3 or 4 close friends is normal. Make it a point to call them, stay in touch, and get together at least once a month. I think people that text a million times a day need to get a life. The real world is through a phone call and/or a get together.

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  • freebee

    Join the club mate. I've spent my whole like working and not playing enough only having aquatances but only about 4 close friends my phone only ever rings when they call or txt or it's business

    The moral or this is work hard play hard.
    Good Luck

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  • shawna

    Make the effort to hang out and text them. I don't have many friends today.when I was in middle and high school I was very popular.I also think that as you get older the meaning of a friend changes.today is a whole new day.I only have 2 good friends.It don't matter how many friends you have as long as the friends you have are great ones .Good Luck!!

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  • MercedesBenz

    There's an old saying; "If you want to have friends, be a friend."

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  • Who_Fan4Life

    Throw an orgy party. You know how popular you'd be at the end of that!?

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    Ill be your friend if it makes you feel better.

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  • Skitzo1

    Its normal. But I like solitude (the enjoyment of being alone) due to this (and the fact i always ignore the people i hang around with) i have only about 4 friends. Im incredibly shy really.

    I think im normal.

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  • BeautyBodyBrains

    Just like me. I have 6 "friends" and none of them text or call me only if I can benefit them. I have a boyfriend and he is the only person I talk/text. Friends now-a-days are über worthless.

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  • reality84

    Reality is people who have plenty of friends, are really acquaintances;the four that you have are your friends. I have older brothers and sisters I rarely talk to. Do not feel bad, you came in the world and your going alone.

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  • CinnamonToast

    Just meet more people. And more, and more, and more. If you have to meet a thousand people to make a single friend, that just means your friends are all... one in a thousand. :)

    You may never have many friends, but you will learn to have GOOD ones. Quality is more important than quantity, especially where your friends are concerned.

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  • teenfun14

    It's fine to be alone I mean would u rather friends who hate you or no friends at all. Plus I'm dealing with it too. It's ok

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  • alv1592

    i think it's normal. it doesn't matter how many friends you have, as long as you have people who are there for you. i'm sorta like you except i'm a girl. i have friends, and even though i don't talk to them constantly, i know they'd be there for me if i needed them to. i've never had a bf, but i'm fine with that, at least for right now.

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  • dappled

    Bronte gave a great answer there. It's different for men, but in some ways the same. We're a bit cut off from our feelings and often lack understanding of others. In that sense, it's easier to close yourself off and try to be self-sufficient. But it's honestly not the right way. Other people are horrible and wonderful in equal measure. You just need to put yourself out there and filter out the horrible ones.

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