Is it normal to avoid your own father?

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My dad has been out of my life for a good 14 years. Recently in the past year I have been recontacted by him. I have spent some time with him and with him and my mother but I seem to be much closer to her and they sometimes do not get along.

However, I feel a little bit pressured now since I have two parents again to be able to put time into both of them equally now. But I lately have been avoiding my dad and he has been avoiding me. Until recently when I emailed him and said hi we got back into talking. However, I am starting to feel distant towards him again and wanting to avoid him and not call or take his calls because I feel too much pressure and he himself can be a real jerk, especially since he doesn't contribute much like a dad should.

Is this normal to avoid my own parent?

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Based on 38 votes (30 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Sure - you have to take it slowly & feel comfortable about it, and not pressure yourself to suddenly be close when that isn't and hasn't been the case for so long. Some counseling might help.

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    • crazygood
      13 years ago

      I actually never thought of counseling thats a great idea I may have to try thanks

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  • tentacleTherapist
    12 years ago

    LMAO I've been avoiding him for the past two weeks now, to the point where I'm fully nocturnal. I won't go downstairs unless he's not there.

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  • Cookieboy
    13 years ago

    I avoid my father, but I have reasons. Do you?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I feel the same way.

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