Is it normal to avoid going into relationships because of status?

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I've never gotten into a relationship because of my status. I've had a pretty hard life and because of it and the fact that the economy has gotten in trouble, I have no job and I feel really poor.

I also lack goals because of my low self-esteem.

I'd like a relationship but I feel that that they will end pretty quick since my status will turn females away. I also feel that I would be an embarrassment to a partner because I can't even support myself.

Am I normal?

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Based on 64 votes (50 yes)
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  • Patisserie
    13 years ago

    Why would you want to be normal?
    The view is better looking in, hun.
    Also, I share the same problem. Though I have no problem with it and have no desire to change.

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  • busybee216
    13 years ago

    Yes. I avoid relationships for alot less reasons. That being said... You should be comfortable enough with yourself not to though. There are so many things involved in a relationship other than money and material things. And the things that aren't material are the things that matter. If you have a good heart you have alot more to offer than the richest man in the world. Love and kindness goes further and lasts longer than money.

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  • kelsey
    14 years ago

    Have confidence.

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  • secrettellings
    14 years ago

    this is normal, I was the same way but I wasn't unemployed or depressed, I just didnt date people that aren't in my status

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  • ThePudgyOne
    14 years ago

    All I can say is the only thing to do best is to actually pursue some goals. That's all there is to it. I am in the same position as you are and in the same way I think of myself when I surely want to be in a relationship because of my status. I am unemployed but hell, I have to deal with it and move on by looking for another job. Crying or nagging about it won't change anything, even thinking or sitting around. I've started to stand up and put my embarassment aside because what I think is best is to get up and get yourself sources outside. Its either look for an opportunity or continue dwelling in the comfort zone for the rest of your life until you die. Sounds harsh but its a fact.

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    you feelings are normal and quite correct. who, in their right mind, would want a unemployed depressed boyfriend? how boring would that be? very!

    you are the person who is in control of your life, so why do you sit at home, doing nothing, wishing for a girlfriend?

    get up, get out, and start living. start job hunting right away. once you have something that needs to be done every day, you will find that you are feeling much better. plus you'll have money in which to do things.

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