Is it normal to assume that all men cheat?

Human beings are not hard wired to be monogamous. All other primate species (of which humans are) engage in sex with multiple partners, sometimes heterosexual, sometimes homosexual. The point is one partner for the rest of your life, sex with that same person for the rest of your life isn't something every single person can do. Trying to guess if someone is in fact someone who CAN do that and someone who CAN'T do that is not something that can easily be done. There isn't any cut and dry formula or blueprint for a relationship that will never involve a partner cheating on the other partner.

It just happens.

If you want to minimize the chances for yourself in regards to being cheated on (as a woman)than someone else above gave very relevant real world advice and that is to avoid the proverbial "ladies man". What most women do (some learn from it as they get older others never learn at all) is see that a certain guy gets A LOT of attention from other women. Being competitive creatures women assume there has to be a reason for this so instead of dating the "no challenge, boring guy" they take it upon themselves to "get in line" for a chance at this "ladies man". Upon getting a chance with this "ladies man" women than convince themselves that even though this guy may have a reputation for not being faithful that they will be the one to change him, he will leave his cheating ways behind for "love".

Of course this is nonsense that only happens in the movies and not in real life, but what happens is the "ladies man" reverts back to his character traits and cheats and the woman goes to pieces.

On a personal note, I always found it interesting that these same women, assuming a certain level of attractiveness (say 7/10, 8/10) always without fail have guys that are "friends". I.e. friend-zoned. These guys will be the shoulder to cry on, dropping everything (even leaving their own mother on a sick bed) if the woman calls about how "he did it again". They convince themselves that if they provide enough emotional support eventually the woman they desire (who friend-zoned them) will come around.

The odds may be against you but that's where the magic begins. Have hope.

This stereotype is highly offensive.

Must throw shit at OP.

It's not about men, it's about your father and you.

Believe me, I have father issues too. My dad also cheated, treated my mother and I like crap, stole money, and some other nonsense.

I can definitely tell you that if you don't take the time to understand why you're upset and move on from what your father has done, you'll end up hating men in general to no return or subconsciously date men who remind you of your father and repeat the same cycle countless times.

What helped me tremendously was knowing that every horrible person (both men and women) have similar behavioral patterns, traits, and sometimes similar beliefs on what's right or wrong. Some hide them well, and a lot of them are obvious about it. It's all about knowing what to watch out for, and being realistic. The problem I see in monogamy isn't that men do this, or women do that, it's the fact that A LOT of people like to rely on their heart and "feelings" when in a relationship, but never consider to use their brain (myself included at one point).

I understand chemistry, attraction, and all that are a huge part of it, but if you notice a guy after a month or so of dating say, "Wow, we should get married," or "You'll look better if you wear this," or some shit that makes you stop and wonder, even for a brief moment, then you may have a potential problem on your hands. Same for dating women, if you notice a girl you only known for a week or so getting jealous over everything that comes near you, then it doesn't matter how great the sex feels or how "right" she seems, you got a potential problem you may regret. Also, if you noticed is someone has an enormous history of failed marriages/relationships and constantly blaming their past partners for everything that went wrong, then it's best to believe that he/she is the problem, but fail to see it.

Along with that, you got to notice when the relationship feels off, and use your intuition. Know when to walk away, or have a serious talk. So many good men/women get attached to the wrong person, and make excuses for their bad behavior. For example:

"Oh, he's independent, that's why he disappears for days without saying a word."
"Yeah, she's just the jealous type."
"He told me loves another girl he just met, but since we been dating for years, I know I can trust him!"
"She loves me a lot, that's why she wants me to spend all my time with her. So sorry guys, can't hang out."

Or being too afraid to just speak their concerns because they're not sure what their partner is going to do. Being scared of your partner on any level is unhealthy, and it makes me want to rip my hair out when I encounter people like this.

Anyway, my big rant aside, just work on yourself mentally. Take steps to heal from the past, and learn about relationship warning signs so you can encounter less assholes.

I don't feel like you are being realistic. You based your judgment on a pessimistic frame of mind.

Apparently my post was deleted. Oh well.

I cheated many times during my first marriage. But I don't think the average guy who cheats does so to be sneaky or to get some sort of thrill from the act of cheating (I know of some that do). It's much more complicated than that. For me the main problem was the marriage itself. We got married when we were very young. We had two children before reaching age 23. We needed to grow as adults and thus we grew apart. But with the responsibility of raising and loving two children it is no easy task to just call the whole thing off. So I cheated. That was my coping tool. I could have left her, surely. But to leave my young son. My young daughter? Nope. When our kids got older we divorced. I'm very happily remarried. I have never cheated on my present wife. Have absolutely no desire to. So that's my story on your subject, sweetie. I cannot speak for any other guy.

In my experience most men do not cheat. They'd I if they havelowsf esteem and opportunity strikes. I game many male friends and a male partner. Cheating is not inherent. I depends on the persons own experience. Humans are not monogamous but not polygamys either. Because jealousy is real. Circonstances alter reality. Respect is key.

hmm. Yes a lot of men cheat, so do a lot of women. Its a lottery, don't look too deep into it. Go for broke. Go for happiness. Take the falls and get up stronger. You are 19, what the hell are you even worrying about this shit for? Your outlook will have changed in 10 years due to the experience you build up, and changed again 10 years after that.
I'd prefer instead we look at why so many women willingly, and even seem to take pleasure out of, destroying a man's life in malicious and deceitful ways, just because they can. Believe me the scales tip well over in women's favour when considering this.
So grow a set and quit trying to pick on men, when women have proven themselves to being far more malicious and hurtful creatures than their superior counterparts!

They don't, not all of them, and the assumption that they do is pretty jaded. It helps to understand the reasons why certain men do, as other users have pointed out, and it also helps to be able to identify signs that someone is predisposed to doing it.

Having said that, yes, many men cheat. Many, if not more, women cheat as well. You can say your against cheating and never would, but to say so with assurance means that you don't understand the complicated reasons behind cheating in the first place. In most situations, people don't PLAN to cheat on a partner, but it happens.

Be aware of the signs and problems that lead to it. Avoid those that are predisposed to it. It can be prevented in many cases, with attention, communication, care and commitment to the relationship from both sides.

In short, be careful who you trust, and once you do trust someone, make your relationship a priority and don't let it slide.

I used to cheat, but now I don't.

So not only do all men NOT Cheat, but once a cheater does NOT mean always a cheater.

Actually, the probability of them meeting on a random encounter is 1%.

I never cheated ever. But, it was hard being married to a closet lesbian. Desperation was the keynote of our lives.

There are plenty of guys out there who do not wish to cheat and don't cheat. But you have to look at the pool from which you draw from.

Lots of times, the guys that seem attractive to a lot of women are guys who get a lot of girls. That makes sense. They are usually pretty social, pretty confident and comfortable around women, and the fact that they have other girls interested in them makes more women interested in them. They are not always physically attractive, but they can be and often times are. The thing is, lots of times women get into relationships with these guys thinking that they "won" and that he picked her over all the other girls and that it will stay that way. But again, the nature of this kind of guy is to be around a lot of women and to have chemistry with a lot of women. And that is a recipe for cheating unless he is extremely committed to a particular girl.

Lots of women go for a "ladies man" without really trying to go for that type of guy. He just might stand out the most because... he's a ladies man. But someone said something to me once that really makes sense. For a long term relationship... someone who is kind of "boring" is kind of good. That doesn't mean you can't like them or they can't be attractive, it just means that they are more mellow, more low key, they're not on the social scene as much. Because for a long term relationship, that's really what it's about. Just kind of living your lives together and having stability and safety. Someone who seems really exciting sounds fun and all, but in the long term that's more difficult to maintain unless maybe you are both that way and just except that you lives will be very all over the place.

I think that women also cheat quite a bit, but it's in a different way lot of times. It's more subtle with women, and lots of times they might even end the relationship before it gets to a full blown sex life with the other person. It happens though. But in either case, there are lots and lots of guys and girls out there who do not cheat and do not wish to.

They might not always be the ones who stand out at first. You might have to go digging for them a little bit or just look a little harder to see them, but they are there. They can still be very attractive; but remember, the first one you see is probably the first one a lot of people see. The person who comes up to you at a bar is probably the person that comes up to a lot of people at a bar.

Not normal.

The need for Love, Affection, Sex, Companionship are all natural. If any one of them or any other natural human need is being withheld or not fulfilled that person has the 'right' to seek out someone/something to fill that need.

If I didn't screw my wife, I could not blame her for finding someone who will.
If I don't feed my dog, I can't blame it for finding food elsewhere.
Every living thing has the right to be happy and have its needs met.

So the term "Cheating" is all BS too. People don't want their mates to "Cheat" on them, but instead they want their mates to "Cheat" themselves out of happiness by enduring the pain of having basic needs withheld. Nah, I love myself too much to cheat myself out of anything. And if someone needs me to be unhappy so they can be happy then to hell with them.