Is it normal to ask your girlfriend for so much money?

The last thirty days, my boyfriend and I have broken up twice. It's been the first time in almost four months that we had broken up. Our relationship finally took a serious tone and we were happy with each other. We never argued or anything but one day, out of the blue, he decided that he was "depressed" and wanted to be single. I let him have his way. I didn't want to be suffocating but I knew that I wanted to be with him.

Almost a month passed and he texted me out of nowhere telling me he loves me. He explained that he had been in a car accident and he just needs to be with me because I'm always there for him, etc. The next day, he admitted that he needs 1,500 dollars to pay for car repairs for the guy he hit because his insurance won't cover the entire amount (crappy insurance, he says). After repeatedly stating that he needs the money, I offered to help which he too eagerly accepted.

We ended up breaking up again (because he decided he would never want to get married and I don't see the point of being in a relationship has no intention of lasting). The money issue never came up because we had just stopped talking again. The court date is in one week and he just texted me again, telling me the same things, that he loves me, he wants to be with me, etc. The money came up again. He promised he'd pay it back in installments, that we can get it in writing and everything, but I'm sort of afraid that he's basing our relationship on his need for money. I'm afraid that if i give him (or don't give him) the money, he'll just break up with me afterwards.

It's 1500 dollars. He's currently unemployed (which adds to his depression and wanting to be alone for the first breakup). But is it normal to give up that much money with nothing in return? Is it even normal to trust him after everything we've been through the last month?

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Based on 89 votes (12 yes)
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Comments ( 11 )
  • CountryRoads

    NOOOO!!! God, judging from the fact that you've thought this through and asked this question, you're smart enough to KNOW what's happening here. You might love him, and all that crap, but he's using the shit out of you. Just tell him you don't have it.

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  • Ryukozin

    I agree with all the others, ditch the guy and don't talk to him again - he is using you and I feel so sorry for you.

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  • lmn

    Come on now...you know deep down what he's doing isn't right. You know you should be doing better for yourself than him. Tell him no next time he asks just to see how he reacts and treats you... I guarantee he won't be so sweet and telling you how much he loves you then.

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  • dont do it, hes using you like ur a sugar mommy

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  • Jen118584

    You're crazy if you give him anything. He's milking you for all you're worth.

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  • Shrubskill_Nurse

    No. Don't allow this anymore.

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  • lovergrl

    That's crazy..don't do it

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  • taliha

    Well, I have been in the same situation and I can tell you no it is not normal the way he is treating you. He should not have to ask you for money which kind of men is that! If he can not be responsible for his own mess how can he be responsible for you and your couple!
    Matter of money should come when trust is in place in a relationship, when you share a place together when you are sure but certainly not before.
    He does not love you, he does not care for you and he is telling what you want to hear.
    I was in the same situation and he did drive me crazy telling me he loved, he cared for me... . but only when he needed something. I have lost a lot. Don't fall for it!

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  • one_guy

    Like everyone else said no! Look don't try and learn the hard way. Don't be naive. You've been warned. Don't let his sweet talk get to you. He's already a red flag on how you describe him.

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  • Are you suing for the $1500? Not clear... Anyway, ditch him. He's manipulative and thank goodness you didn't marry. If you can get the $1500 fine. If not - chalk it up to the tuition costs of bad judgement and learn from it. Either way, shut this guy out of your life for your sake.

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    • Oh I see ... its the promise of the money. Forget it. You owe him nothing and if he can't come up with $1500 how is he to pay you back? He can't and won't.

      Say no & he will go away & you are better off. Don't be a sucker.

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