Is it normal to ask you for an std test?

I think this is normal. Totally normal. When me and my boyfriend got together we both got tested. You can never guarantee anything without proof.

You're just playing it safe.

If your boyfriend were to refuse to take an STD test, he might be hiding something...

Then again he could get offended...

You have the right to protect your health, future spouse, and future children with taking charge in your sex life.

"Better safe than sorry!"

One other thing: Remember to escort this mate to the clinic yourself, to make sure that has actually had the test -- see the blood being drawn with your own eyes! I know how deeply manipulative males can be to orchestrate sexual encounters with women; nothing is beneath us when it comes to getting sex.

I have had plenty of experience dating girls in my younger years, though I have stopped short of losing my virginity in all of the scenarios. I have dated girls who have had high sex drives, but very low tolerance for people who ``want to wait before marriage``, which is definitely not the norm by a longshot anymore. I, myself, have a very high sex drive and look at a healthy amount of porn everyday... everything in moderation!

PS: I think it's INCREDIBLY sexually attractive to hear a woman talk like this. If our genders were reversed, you would understand that asking such a question would be relationship suicide. Can you imagine what it would be like asking your partner how many partners she's had, whether or not she would have her blood tested for STIs, etc?

TRUST ME... as a woman you have a great deal more leverage in these regards. I can assure you that if the man you are dating he has nothing to hide, he will willingly submit to such tests without any compunction. I would... but that`s just me. someone who shares the same beliefs as you do!

I'm 25, male and also a virgin, and this question has crossed my mind many times. I would think that ANYONE (male or female) you've had a relationship with, who understands you and cares for you... would willingly submit themselves to such a test without pause.

However, for myself -- being male and raging with hormones -- a female may interpret my asking as offensive, because it's not normal for men to question someone's sexual history. The normal course of action would be, fuck now and ask questions later!

Best,

Charles

u shud ask him. my ex boyfriend just found out he has HPV virus or genital warts. he caught it before we were dating and never had any signs until recently so got tested n bam he has an std n didnt even know, its impossible he caught it from me n we dated for nearly 2 years, so even though u may trust the guy totally he might not even know he has anything !!! wish id been smart enough to get my ex tested before we started dating as i obviously caught HPV from him
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Forget that go & pregnant & be on the show 16 & pregnant & enjoy being famous & be on mtv

"I'm a girl. (virgin) Say I was going out with you (being a boy)..I asked you to get tested for STD's first even if you already told me you didn't have any. Would you be mad? Would you break it off with me? What would you do?"

First off, if you (or both of us) are under age, I will not be having sex with you. If, however, we can be considered two consenting adults, my response would be:

'I have no in problem doing this. I view it as a positive thing. But, you are going to get tested, as well. As a matter of fact, I think that you and I should make an appointment with a Family Planning Counselor to learn more about safe sex and the best forms of contraception. Although it may "feel" better for me to have bare-back sex with you, I really would prefer to do the right thing. When are you available to go for testing and counseling?'

Anyway, use always a condom

It's stupid... If u don't trust him then don't have sex with him... And I'm not saying you should trust him.. What I'm saying is that u shouldn't have sex with him

A mature person would be glad too.