Is it normal to ask my husband to clean up after himself?

I think its immature to come to site and try to get encouragement to support YOUR side of the arguement.

It's things like that that make me glad I don't have a man to clean up after. Damn grotty pigs.

Keep your foot down and say if he makes a mess he should clean it up, just like you did.

The issue here us not man vs woman, woman vs man it's about respecting another adult, or person whether it be my sister, brother, husband, babysitter, you need to clean up after yourself!! Yes, my husband looks after our 2 year old son while I am at work, the same way I take care of him when he's at work! I'll go with the majority here, thanks for stopping by though..,

so he is home all day making a mess? if you are at work all day then he should be doing all of the housework. that is how it should work. just like if a man is at work all day and their wife is at home, she is expected to do all of the housework. so if he is at home all day when you are at work, what on earth does he do all day? watch porn and wack off?
just leave his mess, dont ask him to clean up because chances are, he will make more of a mess just to get you angry for asking him to clean up after himself.
do your own clothes washing, wash your own dishes, throw your own rubbish in the bin. he will eventually complain and when he does, just tell him that its his own mess and you are not his mother and you are not going to nag him into doing something a mature man should do. only babies have to be told what to do.

Everyday I come home from work I spend 30 mins just cleaning up the kitchen before I can make dinner. I agree about the man/woman roles since he mentioned that if his dad left it in the sink, his mom would just clean it no questions asked..he seems to be getting worse the older he gets. I just refuse to clean it, guess you can't teach an old dog new tricks...lol

I think it's a little late to complain now, he has likely always been like this. Asking him to change now will only result in arguments.

I agree with dappled, he was raised this way. I blame my husband's parents for his inability to clean up after himself. But in his defense, his father was sick a lot and couldn't clean up after himself. Pile that on top of the idea of "womens work"- my kitchen is always a mess. So I've learned to deal. The compromise- his job is to keep the toilet bowl and cat box clean. I think I made out better in this deal.

His mother probably cleaned up after him and he thinks this is a woman's role. In the same way he thinks his role is to fix your car. It's a bit old-fashioned, things have moved on, and he needs to be brought up to speed.

He sounds like a jackass.

Chances are you probably knew he was a slob before marrying him. Men aren't born slobs; they learn this behavior from watching their mothers pick up after their fathers. They also see women on TV doing the same thing, like Sharon Osborn and I Love Lucy. It's the media's fault.

Well atleast I know I'm not crazy, he made me feel totally out of line for not taking the garbage out of the sink, he leaves inappropriate stuff in there on a daily basis, I told him it's pure laziness,

Tell him to grow up and change.
If he doesn't: don't touch the kitchen. Leave it dirty until he takes off his princess crown and cleans it.

Him using his excuses that he works on your car and brings you out to eat was pretty childish and irrelevant IMO. Maybe he could of said he was busy with something important but it doesn't seem like the case.. Cleaning after yourself is pretty much like common sense to me. Tell him to man up, he doesn't need you to be his mom.