Is it normal to ask my boyfriend if i can experiment with a girl?

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I have a boyfriend who I love very much, but I've been having the desire lately to sexually experiment with another girl, specifically a friend of mine. I've been having these homoerotic feelings lately and I want to act on them to see if I like it. I already know that she is bisexual, and we have a very strong connection with each other and we are very close and trusting of each other. Is it okay to ask my boyfriend to let me hook up with her to experiment??

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    And how would you feel if your boyfriend asked you if he could join you two? And what happens if he gives the other girl all the attention?
    Not a nice feeling, is it?

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    • MisterPapaya
      8 years ago

      Yeah I never understood how a girl can be part of a threesome and then be jealous if her man pays a little more attention to the new girl. Of course he's going to pay more attention to her; sex with her is new and exciting. That's like getting your pet a new toy and not letting him play with it.

      If you can't share, you shouldn't be havIng threesomes. You should only be attempting if seeing your partner having sex with someone else turns you on.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    I guess it's okay to ask him, but it's also okay for him to be uncomfortable with it, and even see it as a deal breaker on his part. He can't stop you from experimenting.

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  • Redcoats
    8 years ago

    I appreciate the fact you respect him enough to ask (:

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    How would you feel if he said the same thing to you? There's your answer.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    it's fine to ask but it may make him feel uneasy as he could wonder then after if you will just go ahead and do it anyways . It could cause otherwise normal scenarios with you around females to look suspicious or if you sleep at a girls house . I also would say .. fair is fair so if you are asking .. you may want to offer including him ? some may challenge that statement but if you get to try another partner , so should he .. just probably healthier to do it together . I save these experiences that are outside the relationship "norm" to most for lovers though not full on dating scenarios so that I can leave the confusion out and enjoy monogamy . I do enjoy multiple women though ( consensual ) I wouldn't cheat and I can be completely content with one .

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  • alyssa_martz
    8 years ago

    Just so everyone knows, I probably won't do it. I don't want to feel like I'm betraying my boyfriend. Thank you for your responses!

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    • Crazyperson2
      8 years ago

      Don't do it. It would hurt him to know you wanted to do it with someone else. especially
      another girl

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  • MisterPapaya
    8 years ago

    As a married man who would LOVE if his wife experimented with another girl, I say go ahead and ask him. He might be excited by it.

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  • breathingtree
    8 years ago

    It's okay to ask.

    I was in a similar situation once and I even said he could watch if he didn't approve of me doing it on my own. He said no and I was fine with that, but then he teased me for the next two years about it. Being teased about it was annoying as hell.

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  • Gspyder
    8 years ago

    If you would be okay with him experimenting

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