Is it normal to ask him to compromise?

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My husband likes to DJ as a hobby. He does get paid for it. For a long time I didnt want him to do this because I was insecure. A few years ago I decided that it was ok for him to do this. He dj's at Weddings, parties, etc. However I am not ok with him getting a job at a bar or club because I think it will put us in a position that may hurt our marriage due to that setting. He wants to do it all or not at all. He says he needs to do this at least once a week. Is it ok for me to let him dj everywhere but at bars? Is it normal for me to feel this way?

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  • georgienne
    12 years ago

    I think you're being quite reasonable, assuming he's of 'clubbing age.
    I think it's odd he'd give up something he loves to do just cause you've restricted it a TINY bit. Seems immature.
    Tell him exactly why you don't like it, and give HIM the ultimatum: do it and skip the clubs, or drop it all like you want to and get a job. He needs to sort this out, you shouldn't have to accommodate his childishness.

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  • 8Serene8
    12 years ago

    Bad idea for him to dj at a club or bar. I've seen lots of chicks flock to the dj booth at the clubs I've been to.

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