Is it normal to ask girl's parents

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Firstly read it very carefully what I'm going to say.

I have my true love and I care about her too much.
I am in my final year of graduation and after it I'm sure that I'll get a good job.
Now I'm in confusion that should I go to my girlfriend's parents to ask her hand or after I get a job.
Because her parents will look for boy for her after 2 years.
We are in inter caste pl z suggest about this too.

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Based on 23 votes (16 yes)
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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    Sure you'll get a good job after graduation?

    Don't be too confident - a degree is no guarantee.

    I think it shouldn't really matter whether you have a job or not when you ask. If she wants to marry you, she'll say yes. You can always have a long engagement until you've saved up enough money to pay for the wedding - there's no rush.

    Or don't ask her until you can afford the wedding. It shouldn't matter if you are in a loving relationship with her. If she's the right one for you, you'll both still love each other for many years to come. Again - there's no rush.

    Are you Indian by any chance? Mentioning castes and her parents 'seeking a boyfriend' for her makes me think of the culture of arranged marriage and caste system of India.

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    • dave_13
      9 years ago

      yeah you're right belongs to India. And I'll wait for until I become able to lift us

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  • mixwell
    9 years ago

    Focus on your career first then worry about marriage later. Does your girl have a career going also ? You both have to get your lives together before thinking about marriage.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    How much time do you have before you before you graduate? Are sure that you'll be able to get a job straight out of university? Many find it difficult to achieve this. I am not trying to discourage you, but you need to think of the possibilities.

    Personally, if the job was 100% guaranteed, I would take it and them ask for her hand in marriage. Correct me if I have gotten the wrong impression, but her parents seem to be very snobby.

    Even if it is not guaranteed, for the sake of love, you could go out on a limb and ask them for their blessing. If they refuse, keep in mind that she is an adult. She should be able to make her own decisions.

    Good luck.

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  • Naughtygirl147
    8 years ago

    Well just ask her then tell the parentS and if they don't want to give u their blessing screw em.that girl is what you care about

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  • umph
    8 years ago

    You do not need to ask her parents anything.
    If you are both adults, just get married!
    Stop with this middle-ages non-sense!

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  • la_uva_mojada
    9 years ago

    Who is more control? Mom or dad

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    • dave_13
      9 years ago

      I think Dad.

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