Is it normal to always want to be alone like this?

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I rarely go out and when I do it's usually by myself. Sometimes I'll invite a friend but it's usually the same person I invite every time. I'm not shy or anything, I go to parties, clubs and other places with friends, but that's usually once a month or every few months. I maintain eye contact when talking to people and don't fear rejection. I could care less about what people think of me.

I can be very out going and have been told that I can become a social butterfly, but I find it contradicting. I dislike being around people. I hate having to deal with people sometimes.

There are times where I even wonder if I truly care about my friends and often think "You trust me, but that doesn't mean I trust you." I honestly believe that I can live without friends and social interaction, I don't freak out when I'm alone for an extended amount of time. If anything I become very irritable when I'm disrupted and have take time out of my day to listen to someone else ramble on about something.

It bugs me that I spend so much time alone, but I find my solitude so comforting and homey that I can't leave it. I sometimes snap at people too. I've been told that I'm rude and at times mean. I've had friends ask me if I'm okay because I'll snap at them to shut up because they became annoying. I don't know why I get angry for.

Most of my day is spent to myself thinking, reading or writing. I find that I have a better time alone then when I do if I'm with friends of family. I don't hate my family and it's not one of those 'no one understands me' things, i hate those people too.

I'm just wondering if I should maybe seek help. I enjoy being alone, I hate people, snap at my friends to leave me alone, I feel somewhat apathetic towards people and their feelings. I can honestly say that I sometimes care more for my dogs then I do for my friends. I don't feel sad when I lose a friend. I just go back to reading and enjoy my day to myself.

I love being around my family and people I'm comfortable with, but it usually ends there. It's frustrating because I DO want to like people. I want to be able to say 'Hell yeah man' when someone asks me if I want to go somewhere. But I can't help myself. It's like I can be two completely different people and sometimes they clash.

Is it normal to always want to be alone like this? Complete and total solitude?

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Based on 58 votes (43 yes)
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  • bananaface
    12 years ago

    It's called being introverted, completely normal:)

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  • OrcWarlord5556
    9 years ago

    almost word for word how I feel, It isn't that I reject people, I just enjoy solitude and prefer to live inside my own head, finding peace in writing out stories and generally being a quite little introvert, with family I can be very open and can get very conversational in the right situation ( long car rides for instance ) people say I am antisocial but while not untrue it is far too blunt, overall I just like to be left alone

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  • Cheese123
    10 years ago

    Talk to a therapist. The reason for that is you seem quite concerned.

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  • cookiesaregreat
    12 years ago

    wow its kinda scary to read this because its exactly the same for me . . . I'm glad I'm not the only one to act/think like this though

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  • trashman
    12 years ago

    I'm the same way, I enjoy my solitude and I get angry at my friends for breaking it, but I don't show it because they are good people and I do still enjoy their company, but still I need at least 60% alone time in a day or I start to get annoyed.

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  • YBNormal
    12 years ago

    I used to think that being a loner in a social world was about the weirdest thing a person oculd be, but thanks mostly to the internet, I've learned that there are a *lot* of us out there. I'm actually a lot more of a loner than you are, so to me, you are far more "normal" than I.

    Is it *truly* normal, or just very common? Is there a difference? Normal is defined by it's surroundings, and while it does seem like far more than most of the world is very social, there are enough "people like me" in this world to let me know that I'm normal, just different. I'm ok with that.

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  • Jerid
    12 years ago

    Try to go out more, imagine it as an exercise, go on a walk, and make you feel mad! SAY TO YOUR SELF - I am GOING to that fucking party even if I kill myself there - ... don't kill yourself, but living alone never turns out good :/ Sometimes you might need a friend and you don't have one, make a friend and keep him, talk with him, and kiss her/him, I think your solitude will end right on that kiss =P

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  • Nolan3200
    12 years ago

    That's pretty much exactly how I feel. It can get very frustrating, I find. Unfortunately I don't think it's very normal. You said it can feel like two people clashing... I get that. Bad. Very bad. To the point where I actually have voices in my head. But I think what you need to do is just bite the bullet and go out more often. You may not always enjoy yourself, but I think it could be for the best. However, that might just be me speaking for myself. But try and keep that anger under control... It also wouldn't hurt to maybe go and talk to someone. But that would be your decision.

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Hating this is cool because then you don't have to try and make it change.

    Social interaction is everything, if you get a job and you're the best in the world in your studies you will still get nowhere if you aren't socially competent. It's easier to move up if you are inept but socially confident and graceful.

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