Is it normal to always want out?

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My history of dating has always been rocky. My first love was at sixteen and when he got to close I bailed. My second love cheated and I bailed. My third love left me when I got pregnant. My fourth love gave me a son, but also a terrible 7 years, not saying that I didn't cause any of that. I've had a couple of boyfriends between and since but I always find a fault in them. The new romance is fun, but when it comes down to the everyday living they just dont add up to what I want in a spouse, thus the reason why I have never been married. My current boyfriend is lazy, doesn't help. Gets mad when I ask him to get me something to eat, when he has my money and my car. I don't like how he treats my son, especially favoring his children in front of him. I don't like how he doesn't want anything from life. We both started out rough and don't have a college education so we both have low paying jobs and raising kids, but he all he does is want to dream about what he wants, but doesn't do anything about it. When I try to save, he finds something to spend it on. His kids hate me, their mother tells them to be mean, I know its not the kids fault but I teach my children to respect everyone, especially if they live with them. I am not even remotely attracted to him anymore and want out, but I can't get out due to limited expenses. He has good qualities, he's funny and affectionate, and funny and affectionate and he can tell a mean story. Always coming up with amazing stories that I am starting to believe are bull. I know he says these things to spark my interest in him, but the lying as the opposite affect. Now my question.... My mother has been married 7 times, I feel I am just using my excuses to get out, just like she did. I don't want to be this way. I don't want to find fault and run. I want a healthy relationship with someone who wants the same things in life I do. Is this normal to always want out?

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  • ferninator
    12 years ago

    *sad violin music im bg*
    i had a lover once, and i would do anything for him. i even stood up to some yr 11's when i was in year 8 (England, baby) who tried to actually kill him (well, they DID say they were gonna, they were all like IM GONNA KILL HIM! IM GONNA F*CKING KILL HIM!!!)and in the end, when i DID confess my love for him, we went out for a few weeks, and then i saw what people were telling me about all the time. he really didn't give a fuck about anyone but himself. he was really bitchy at times and when i asked if he wanted to meet up. he almost always said no.
    *happy music in bg*
    then he got older, and more mature, and i saw that i had fallen in love with him all over again. but he didn't like me back, he hated me and always found something to bully me about. but i never gave up, i was a stubborn bitch, and still am, and to this very day i long for him. And i think he finally DOES like me back. he seems to get jealous when im around my boyfriend.and he doesn't hate me anymore. i would even go so far as to say we're friends now.

    moral of the story: don't fall for someone unless they're willing to catch you.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    That you grew up watching your mother move from marriage to marriage says a lot. No relationship is perfect. You have to compromise. You also have to have the difficult conversations. Perhaps these men really were all wrong for you, and perhaps you've just been unlucky. Or perhaps you've subconsciously chosen men who were wrong, so that you could repeat the pattern learned from your mother. Either way, I hope you find a way out of this cycle. It doesn't sound very fun for you.

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  • xxxbeautifullybrokenxxx
    13 years ago

    Yeah it's normal these guys are not right for you. They are under par you deserve to be completely happy in your life. I've been through tons of guys. Don't worry! You need to leave him though!

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