Is it normal to always lose sexual interest in every boyfriend?

My problem is this: I find a guy I like and I become insanely attracted to him. The sexual chemistry will be off the charts ....that is, whenever the relationship is not a relationship yet. Or is just in the beginning stages of being a relationship. Then, like clock-work, with every major relationship I've ever been in I begin to become almost repulsed by the thought of being intimate with the person. I become turned off by them, even when I still like them as people.

To make this as clear as possible I'm going to try to detail this more. It's almost like I start to feel like I have the upperhand and that's what the turn-off is, maybe? I feel like once I know someone too well, sex turns to a weird, emotional intimacy that makes me squeemish. Is this normal? Has anyone else ever felt this ever - give me insight. Will it ever change? Have I just not met the right guy yet? Because I've been with some guys that I absolutely adored for the first 4-5 months, and guys that I WANT to be with in every other way except for this area. Right now I have an old flame that I'm still very close with whom I'm in love with. I'd love to marry him - but I a can't imagine sleeping with him anymore.

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Comments ( 15 )
  • kerri

    slut

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  • Valetion

    Looks like someone needs a one night stand.

    ;)

    I know how you're feeling. It's normal. It doesn't make you a "slut" or a "whore"

    It may just be a chemical inbalance in your body. Nothing serious.

    Or maybe you just like the thrill of sleeping with a man with no strings attached?

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  • Donteatme

    I never had and sexual interest in my boyfriend I guess you can call me weird. :p

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  • spoon4d

    Ok , i have no real experience in that sort of stuff but i think you want a man who can take charge , instead of you being the leader .

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  • britweed

    Hey, thanks you guys. I'm kind of excited to have actually gotten any comments/feedback at all. First time on this site. I hate to be a cliche, but I didn't grow up with a dad (died when I was younger). But I know girls who have similiar issues as me who do have dads, so I don't think you can simply chalk it all up to one thing or another.

    I hope you guys are right and I do meet someone who is different, who can help me break this miserable pattern.

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  • Clairvoyance

    Yeah this is normal. I agree with atheist. eventually youll date a guy who is way better looking, way smarter, more kind, and way better in bed than you and you wont feel like you have the upper hand anymore lol.

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  • MarijuAtheist

    Sounds like you haven't dated the right guy yet.

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  • fletcher94

    honestly... you may not be a "relationship person".... u may not know it yet.... try a one night stand or something similar....

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  • deatheater

    I think they dont make u feel wonderful 24/7.i think u should go out with a girl

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  • karldaggerfield

    You can only know if a man loves you, before marriage, if he can be with you without having sex.

    But it also sounds like you have intimacy issues. What is your relationship like with your father?

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  • killerkissing

    Hey ima guy and I used to be like just like that until recently I have this girl I've been wit for like almost 2 years and we haven't done it once omg and I hate it but I love her and if wasn't not giving it up I prolly would still be doing that but now I feel I'm ready and ps this is the first girl I've said "I love yu" 2 without lying

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  • scandinavia

    oh my gosh...I am the same way..sex great in the beginning and then I get disgusted! have no idea why and I am scared it will mean I will never be able to one day stand by a mans side for the rest of my life..I feel for you!!

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    • karldaggerfield

      That's because there is no real love and you die inside because of that.

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  • wastingmytime333

    Karl...the rest.. Father issues aren't the real issues...that's a Hollywood cliche.

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    • karldaggerfield

      WastedTime...you haven't talked to very many people, have you?!!

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