Is it normal to always feel incomplete

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I always feel incomplete like something is missing. No matter what I accomplish I feel like I don't deserve it, haven't worked hard enough for it, or it isn't real.

Let me explain this a bit more: everything I do I do well. I graduated from university with a business degree and have since taken my second job in Sales. When I graduated I felt like I didn't deserve it because I didn't work hard enough for it. I feel like I just wasted four years for nothing. When I first started my new job my boss was so excited to have me on board because of previous sales experience.... I KNOW that I am good at my job but I feel like I'm cheating them and that I'm just getting by from pure luck. I have also always been involved in competitive sports.. for example for the past three years I have competed in fitness competitions and won.. when I'm on stage I don't feel like I should be there because I don't feel like I worked hard enough for it even though I worked my butt off.

Is it normal to have the feeling of everything being incomplete even though you have accomplished so much??? does anyone else feel this way??

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  • supguise
    9 years ago

    I can relate to you in some ways. For me at least...it's a mixture of being humble and self-conscious. I don't like the gloat on the fact that I do well. Sure, I try hard and I do my best, but I don't feel like I've succeeded truly sometimes on the inside.
    It can be hard to say to yourself, "I deserve this." when really you just don't know if you do. But something to just tell yourself is that: you brought yourself there. Sure, you were helped by others in other ways, but you were the true source of your successes. Doing well in life doesn't always guarantee full happiness...but it's up to you to whether or not you will let yourself have that happiness. No one else.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    I vaguely recall a report I've seen on women who experience these exact feelings you have described in relation to their successes. From what I remember, such feelings are basically a result of centuries of oppression, of being convinced by society that it's damn near impossible to achieve anything as a woman or minority so when it happens it feels surreal. It's like how everyone says orgasms are the greatest thing since sliced bread, but then you have one and realize the feeling of sinking your feet into the sand can be almost just as pleasurable in its own way. Especially if you have a dick inside you.... you know what, you probably just need a dick in your life ._. #feminazistatus

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Next time you are on stage say, "I owe it all to Mom and Dad."

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I dont think its normal but im the exact opposite. I feel i work my ass off for nothing.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I've always felt that way when I was alone. I make a better "half a couple" than I do a loner.
    Perhaps if you had someone to share in your hard work and your successes, it might be more rewarding.

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  • Mekkars
    9 years ago

    Do you have someone to share these accomplishments with. I.E. an significant other.

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