Is it normal to allow yourself to be treated like $#|@!

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Ok I will admit that I'm not the best looking girl out there and he's not the best looking guy. I have a short temper and get jealous easily. I let things bother me that don't bother him. We are pretty opposite ( as the old sayin hours " opposites attract" ). It's been three years and we have had ups and downs. We met at one of my old jobs and he was intamatly involved with another girl. I knew this as he flirted with me at a party. One thing led to another and next thing I know we are foolin around every other day.
This was three years ago! He left the other chick shortly after a near death experience, an I was the one by his side.

I am the one he brings home to meet his family and I am the one he calls everyday askin me to come over. But.....

Why is it after three years I am still not his girlfriend and why is it he won't tell me that he loves me, I know he does or at Least did at some point. Lately things havnt felt the same, it could be the hot weather but we definatly don't have as much sex as we used to.

I need more then just a friend with benifits
And I am afaid that is all he sees me as after three years. Even though he treats me like any normal guy would..... For the most part

I love this guy more then anything but even though we are both not perfect, am i wrong to need more from him? Do I deserve to keep suffering through a relationship that doesn't exist?I keep debating if I should leave him or not but seeing as no one likes to be alone and I find it hard to meet new people I always end up shaking my feelings away and move on

*sigh* why to do :(

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    your probably jus going to end up being hurt if you continue on with him, if he has no feelings for you you should jus confront him about it and see wat he thinks, if he loves you then youll end up going out (officially) if not then its best u move on rather than jus continue giving and not getting

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  • deviantd
    13 years ago

    The question isn't do you deserve this, it's do you want this?

    I'd rather be alone than with someone who makes me unhappy or isn't giving me what I want. Believe me I understand there are things that keep couples together. But from the sounds of it, they aren't a problem with you (kids, housing, money, abuse).

    Maybe he is happy with the way things are. I had a ""bf once for about that long. and While I was happy with the not officially being bf/gf he had already assumed we were. (boy was that a difficult conversation)

    on the other hand there was another time when I wasn't happy with that anymore. I ended up leaving that one though it hurt me greatly. I felt better and stronger and happier alone than I did not having the relationship I wanted.

    And I did find other great relationships.

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  • scandinavia
    13 years ago

    He sounds like he has got all the time in the world, bloody time waster...I just came out of a relationship with a guy who was similar hence we were not together for 3 YEARS!! you see I only let it last for 3 months, cause I am not a ugly woman who will put up with crap...so WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING WITH HIM?! DUMP HIS ASS...confront him and if he says nothing you leave, but he might also just be one of those guys who regard you as his girlfriend but he is not an open guy?! at the end of the day any man should be proud of his woman and not ashamed..but you met his parents and calls you everyday?! does that not mean you are his girlfriend...have a chat about it

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  • heeraklee
    13 years ago

    i hate girls with short temper

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  • babe7575
    13 years ago

    You don't deserve this! nobody does & until you realize this you will continually torture yourself into thinking this guy is "made" for you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Its not about being perfect. So drop all of that.

    Its about being clear. And you are perfectly clear.

    You have a right to expect the same. Demand it. Don't expect less for yourself from him. If he can not satisfy you on that front, then move on.

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  • vintagebeauty224
    13 years ago

    ask him what do you mean to him so you can know where you stand in this relationship, and if you are not happy with it than see if you and him are willing to fix it, if not, than leave. good luck!

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  • LiamHale
    13 years ago

    Stand up yourself. You deserve a man who tells you he loves you, who makes the commitment. You're only going to hurt if you don't do something about it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Toooo loooonggggg of a stttttttttoooooory

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