Is it normal to alienate & be alienated by old friends?

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I'm in High School. Last year, I moved away due to family circumstances. I moved back to my old home, where I've lived 14 of my 18 years of life. But everything is...different. I don't talk to anyone, not even my closest friends. At lunch, I'll occasionally sit with someone so that I don't look like a complete loser, but I don't talk with them. I'm not rude, or anything. If someone greets me, I'll greet them back, ask how they are, etc. But that's it. These were my closest friends, and I don't even feel the slightest need to say hello(except in reply). There have been several occasions where someones attempted to strike up a conversation, but I never attempt to continue it. IIN?

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  • cipher
    12 years ago

    I do not think this is completely abnormal. It is possible to not feel as close to people as before. However your unwillingness to continue a conversation is a concern and I would suggest you try and change this habit. I cannot be sure but maybe the recent family problems you talk about have caused this.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      That sounds like a definete possibility, but no family problems come to mind, other than the usual junky cousin. But what really worries me isn't that I don't feel as close. It's that I don't feel close to them at all. I feel as if I'm on an alien planet...and 95% of the time, I'm glad it's that way.

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      • cipher
        12 years ago

        has there been any incident that you do not feel too good about, which you think maybe has reduced your self esteem. It has happened with me, when life just isnt going great and always worried about it. It made me want to not be in touch with anyone since I could not talk about it with anyone and also could not act to be happy.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago

          I don't really think so. Last year, I broke my leg in football at my then-new school, so I was on crutches the entire season. And my life is goin pretty good. No girlfriend, obviously, but I have a decent job, I'm looking at a couple scholarships, etc.

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          • cipher
            12 years ago

            hmm.. well do you think that there are some traits about them that you dont like anymore? Maybe you had some experiences in the last year, which changed the way to live life, maybe matured more them then and cannot relate to them at an intellectual level.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    you were gone for 4 years approximately. from pretty much age 13-17 or 14-18.

    that's when friendships change the most. this is why it seems odd because... the people you expect to be your friends have changed tastes. you don't realize it but you've probably changed too

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Actually, I was only gone for one year. I know for a fact some of my old friends have changed (one of whom died whilst I was gone), but I don't think they could change that much. Especially seeing how long I've known them.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    If you don't pick up on those old relationships you're going to lose them completely. Only then will you realise how valuable those people were to you :o(

    This is sad, I have recently made contact with school friends I hadn't seen for 25 years and we all still love each other dearly!

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