Is it normal to address my issues and have it thrown back in my face?

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I have an anger problem. Well, mainly in my car, because I hardly get angry when I'm not on the road.

I get extreme road rage if someone is tailgating, cuts me off, or drives too slow, etc. I'm probably one of the sweetest girls in person, but on the road I'm this psycho bitch who seems dangerous to not only herself but others as well. I just snap, and completely.

Just a couple days ago a guy came up from behind me, literally driving on my ass. I got really pissed! When it came time for him to try and pass me, I purposely sped up. When he finally got in front of me, I chased him, and then he slammed on his brakes in front of me. I never hit him, but I swear the feeling that came over me WAS NOT NORMAL. I wanted to kill this guy. Despite being this little 115 pound girl, when I get angry it's scary! I fear nothing and nobody. That guy could've had a gun, and there I was losing my mind. Heck, I could've killed somebody! Anybody! I went home heated and told my parents that I had a terrible evening. I tried explaining what happened, and that I really think I have a mental problem. All I wanted to do at that moment was kill. is it normal that when I tell my parents about my issues,(my mental problems!) they try to make it sound like its my fault, and that I'm being stupid/attention seeking? I know it's my fault, but I can't control it. So how is that a cry for attention? And why isn't anyone taking my problems seriously when I'm openly telling them that I feel it's out of my control?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Traffic sucks for everyone, you're not the only one!

    Road rage comes from arrogance. If you want to cure it, you have to stop expecting everyone to do what you want them to do on the road. Start expecting that people are not going to follow the rules of the road.

    If someone rides your ass, that's their problem - don't let them make it yours (that's what they want). If someone cuts you off, it might be because they're in a hurry or maybe they honestly didn't see you; it could also be because they're a jerk, but most people aren't, so give them the benefit of doubt. If someone's driving too slow, they might be elderly, drunk, or stoned, so it's best to give them a bit of distance and simply pass them at the next opportunity.

    Be generous. Always let people in when they are merging and do it while smiling. This will make you feel good for doing the right thing and you'll make driving less stressful for someone else.

    And remember: everyone is doing the best they can in life, just like you are.

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  • spoon4d
    12 years ago

    You think thats bad, you should see my dad driving.
    I find he's swearing quite funny though :D

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    Parents never understand...

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    @thisissomuchfun, you could be right. A lot of times I do feel like I'm kinda in situations where its completely out of my control. And I might not show my family or friends how I feel all the time, because I sometimes try to hide my emotions. Even with what drives me up the wall I have a knack at hiding how I truly feel.

    @joybird, I like the photo idea. And thats exactly how I felt! I thought I was seriously gonna end up behind bars.

    Thanks for the advice guys.
    :)

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You should go to your doctor or buy some herbal tablets to calm you down, we have Kalms in the UK. I swear, I had to phone my doctor one day coz I was going to get in my car and deliberately kill someone!

    You could put a photo of something you value on your dashboard to calm you down - like your pet, etc.

    A man down the road had a bumper sticker that said, "better late than DEAD on time" so just work out why you're in such a rush and will a minute or two make any difference. Please calm down in case you get hurt!

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    Thats what I was thinking. Anger management.

    And yes, that particular day I was a little more angry than usual.

    I don't know why, though. But lately I've had this unexplained anger balled up inside of me, kinda waiting to explode. And its almost always when I'm driving. Its really scary. And I'm actually worried I might be in the beginning stages of losing all self control/my mind. I'm worried. And it sounds stupid to probably most people who I talk to, but I really feel like something is changing within me. And I'm really scared. I used to never fly off the handle like that. It just makes it that much more dangerous since its on the road.

    Anyway, thank you for taking the time to read my post, and comment. :)

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Maybe it's something else, outside of driving, that is contributing to your overall feeling of frustration. Do you feel like you don't have a lot of control over certain situations in your life? If you are subject to other people's whims a lot of the time (like your parents), without any power to resist, then you're bound to feel frustrated and angry on a regular basis. When you're in a car, you are suppose to be the one in control, but that feeling of control is a bit of an illusion because you still have to cooperate with a whole bunch of strangers driving their own cars.

      You are completely normal to feel angry when driving, everyone does. It could be that you are not expressing this feeling of anger to your parents in a way that they are receptive to, but that doesn't mean that you're crazy or going crazy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    UGH! My biggest pet peeve is asshole drivers! Although you seem a little more angry than the usual ^_^ anger management?

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