Is it normal to accept someone's flaws?

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The question is more like WHEN is it okay to accept your partners flaws? You know sometimes they say you have to just accept how they are cause they're not gonna change and it doesn't have to do with you that's just how they are, so how do you know? and is it normal to do this? Very rarely do I see today people accepting each other's flaws in relationships. If they're not doing certain things then they're out. I don't think that's REAL love unless you found someone who's exactly what you've always dreamed of. Especially with social media we see these quotes thrown at your face like "Don't allow him to act like what you don't accept" or "Never be with someone who half ass loves you." All of these scream to me don't accept his or her flaws, if they're not acting exactly how you want them to act then leave. I feel like that's not reality and that's pretty much a way to stay single forever.

From my experience, the only guy I ever loved carried qualities I didn't like too much but overall I loved him so I just had to accept the way he was. I don't think I was allowing him to love me "half ass" I think he just showed it in a different way. They also say people show their love in diff ways so I think this was the case but then a little piece of me would be in doubt and wonder did I let him get away with it? Or I was doing the right thing by accepting him? So I wanna know when is it the right time to accept their flaws? When is it not allowed?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    7 years ago

    it really depends on what it is that they do. If they are stealing cats then you need to tell them to stop.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    btw, what is a flaw to you?

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Just like looks, is one thing you dont have to care much about.

    There are some things that take priority over others.

    And if you want the best love you can get, only choose the TOP priorities that matter. That will make you happy.

    Obsession with looks will NOT make you happy. The media may tell you this, but the media is FULL of shit.

    I wouldnt say ban the media, cause I am for freedom of speech, but people listening to this garbage might only hurt some peoples happiness.

    If you want to be happy choose only the valuable priorities, not the artificial ones.

    Theres a fine list of artificial ones, like looks, clothing, money, ect.
    I could go on to make this list, but I would have to think lol

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Yea the media is full of shit these days.

    Nobody should pay attention to it lol

    They'll say fking orange juice is bad or some shit next. lol

    Exactly, some things arent that big of a deal, and you can accept them, other things you can try to help them change if you want.
    It all depends, but lovers should be there for each other :)

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    It ALL depends on what we're talking about.

    But Im glad you sound like you're smart.

    Im glad your able to tell that the media is bullshitting you.

    Just like I love a girl, she's perfect for me :)
    Maybe not the most beautiful looks, but I dont care about looks.
    She's just perfect <3

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    It depends.

    Flaws may be annoying sometimes, but it should neither make you feel uneasy/conflicted in anyway, nor should acceptance of it be a continuous struggle.

    In my opinion, I'm glad romantic acceptance isn't something everyone can do to just anyone, because nothing is one size fits all. Though rejection is a bitch to deal with, especially from immature people who have unrealistically high standards, it helps us realize and appreciate how special it is to find someone with genuine understanding of who we are.

    By the way, what is your boyfriend doing that's making you rethink things?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Yeah I wouldn't want to leave my bf because of some of the things he does are considered "red flags" by the majority. But then I think of the good things and I start accepting him for his flaws. Some of the things he does that I question, I like to call them bad habits, are being distant whether we're apart or together in person, he'll go MIA out of nowhere, lacks compassion, isn't open about us which falls under the idea of him always being secretive and likes to joke around and not tell me the truth.

      Sometimes were together and he just isn't talking to me, nothing. I dont know if its just cause hes comfortable enough with me to have silence cause I do the same. Sometimes I dont feel like talking but its a good thing cause I dont mind the silence as long as Im with him. When we're apart, its even worse cause sometimes hell disappear and then contact me like no big deal. Hes gone like three days without talking to me and then acts like its no big deal. It's like he thinks he can forget about me and Ill always be here thats how I feel, maybe its not like that, maybe he's just a really independent guy cause he is independent and really goal oriented.

      When it comes to compassion, it has to do also with the fact that he doesn't know how to express himself emotionally. We have gone through this many times and he insists this is just who he is, he didn't grow up giving compassion to anyone not even his family so whenever I asked him to give it to me, he would say he doesn't know how to. The first thing I feel is he doesn't care if Im crying or feeling down but then I think of everything he has said and Im like maybe this is just who he is.

      He isn't really open about us which has to do with how secretive he can act sometimes. Sometimes he doesn't feel like telling me things and jokes around about it. Ive come to accept it but then other times I feel like he doesn't value me enough to tell me things or take me seriously.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        That's pretty bad.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    or maybe he was so dedicated towards you, he didnt care about small things to him that mightve not mattered? ;)

    who knows, im guessing, but oddly this situation sounds similar to mine

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Valuable ones should be obvious like,

    Understanding of a person, honesty, caring, loyalty, trust, love, ect.

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