Is it normal to abuse the one you love?

A woman should never hit a man.

Your blaming him for your behavior. You hit because you want to not because he taught you to hit him.

Take responsibility for what you do. Acknowledge it, then change it.

I dont know wat to say,

sorry,

but at least he didnt abuse u more than u did to him

but it really really depends on wat he did, and wat i saw by readin tht, yea i think he does need to hav a talk to or a lesson, on not to do tht kind of stuff, like all the things u hav mentioned, and i dont mind about u hitting, or beating, or wat u wer doing

but i do mind if he does it more than hard as u did to him

yes GIRLS CAN Hit BOYS, GUYS,

BUT GUYS, BOYS CAN NOT HIT GIRLS, ITS NOT NICE, yea i know tht its not nice for girls to hit guys, but its probably a very good reason for girls to do tht to guys, sorry guys, but thts wat i think anyway

so just sayin tht it just really really depends wat he did, and how long u didnt know about tht, and so on. Im fine with tht

But make sure he doesnt do tht to u as harder as u did to him, ok

You are both horrible people that offer nothing to society. I'm a guy and would never hit a girl out of anger...that is if she didn't hit me first. If you hit me there's a good chance you'd be put through the wall. Don't lay a finger on another person unless you expect to be clocked back. Women that beg for womens rights and then hit guys expecting not to get hit back sicken me. Stop hiding behind your "rights" you sound like a 240lb moose. Ugly inside and out

My bf used to beat me spit on me and throw me etc. At first my natural reaction was to fight back but I felt like a monster, I also found that the more I fought back the more physically hurt I got in the end. Anyway I stopped fighting back all together. I know you must be feeling very hurt and you can't forgive him. I can never forgive my bf for treating me like that. You should move on and date someone else if you can't get past it.

This is an unusual situation, but the choices you make will remain the same. This is not normal. You if are in a two-sided abusive relationship, it's time you both stopped seeing each other and got help, anger management in particular. This is NOT healthy nor beneficial for either of you.

It sounds like you have allowed yourself to get strung up, tied down, and push around enough that your in too much a mess to being giving advise to. Go seek profesional help. From what you stated your relationship is toxic. I have loved so much I can't help it and been so angry I've hated but I've never hit or spat on any of my GF's. If you truly cared about someone you wouldn't want to cause them any pain. Ideally you would protect them from anything negative;if you could. Things aren't always as they seem. Emotions are complex and your mind is complicated. You just might not know where your feelings of "Love" are coming from or what they are tied to. Save yourself the pain and get the help you deserve. You reached out here so your wanting some sort of vailidation to your emotions. In answer to your question its very normal for abusive patterns to disseminate to victims. NO! it is Not normal to act as you both have. Best of luck to You

so he feels guilty and let you brat him up for his mistakes, sound like bdsm scenario

just by questioning your behavior, i think you already know that this is not how you want to be.

mastering your temper is something for you to work on.

dont do drugs and stick to the golden rule

do as to others as others do to you

"i feel like such an evil person for going to a low level" well you are there. In deep. And the way out is the mirror image reverse of how you got there: by climbing on every little wrung - not the wrungs of shit you've been into on your way down - but every little wrung of of decency that presents itself.

You've only been there a year. Your choice. Your decision. Good luck.