Is it normal thinking of other man all time and so much love my family

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Well is hard to explain...am mother that adores and work hard for the family..went through phases that feelt had been taken for granted,I call this straight away that unfortunately met someone listening and comforting me .. first was feeling excited and happy, same time for me felt something so wrong..absolutely a disaster..any one around with a similar experience? i cant live happy...love my family..i do everything but always thinking and missing that person that has fell hard for me and i broke his heart...which way I go neither seems right for me and to be in the middle is not good either..is it normal to have this feelings after such experience? it is on for a year and I gave up feeling normal and not confused. can someone help?

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  • SDDA
    11 years ago

    It is impossible to like more than just one person. Impossible! I suppose this is a very difficult situation. It depends on how much you like this other person. Do you love him enough to leave everything you have behind you? It appears that you don't, since you love your husband and family and things. I suppose at this point this is when people begin cheating on their husbands. I suppose that's what I would do, though it is wrong to do, but if you have difficulties choosing one over another like I do, then this is easiest... for a little bit. Or even not cheat on your husband, just be very best friends with this other person. But you can still be close with both of them.

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    • zoedee
      11 years ago

      thanks for your reply and for understanding, well the other parson don t allow me to be his best friend but he want me to be his therefore i have to stay on my side. i am a very sensitive person so i am feeling terrible sad that here is someone that is having hard time in his life because of me..i have cleared may time the point that i would never leave my family but he kept insisting on me and for a reason i like this person but not ready to make a disaster in life, i just cant.

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  • zoedee
    11 years ago

    thanks for taking part and gave you advice, am not sure if you read my whole question or very briefly...So I want to tell you dear friend..to make a decision to leave or run away from your beloved once and feel 100% convinced and the people around you (except) well there it goes... ..my problem is that If I leave the family I miss them, I miss the house and all my things there.. .I love my husband and my husband loves me too with all respect..it just there were times that I got trapped in this social networks when that time was a bit down and stressed for us..I am being honest with myself and not hiding that i am still thinking about the other person that for some times we chat together, sent emails, talked on the phone and we felt that if we were both free we were a perfect couple..this person was convinced to leave his family which for me was a shock to hear this...this person fell hard for me..well is not easy..I wish that people that gives me advice here had passed or are passing from the same experience..i will appreciate so much your help.

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  • Sailor_Cosmos
    11 years ago

    My advice is if you are this unhappy in your marriage..leave. Don't worry about your kids. If they are young they will adapt. If they are older they will understand. This is your life take control of it, you only live once (or so they say) so do whatever it takes to be happy. You can still be a loving mom to your kids, it wont change that.

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    • zoedee
      11 years ago

      thanks for taking part and gave you advice, am not sure if you read my whole question or very briefly...So I want to tell you dear friend..to make a decision to leave or run away from your beloved once and feel 100% convinced and the people around you (except) well there it goes... ..my problem is that If I leave the family I miss them, I miss the house and all my things there.. .I love my husband and my husband loves me too with all respect..it just there were times that I got trapped in this social networks when that time was a bit down and stressed for us..I am being honest with myself and not hiding that i am still thinking about the other person that for some times we chat together, sent emails, talked on the phone and we felt that if we were both free we were a perfect couple..this person was convinced to leave his family which for me was a shock to hear this...this person fell hard for me..well is not easy..I wish that people that gives me advice here had passed or are passing from the same experience..i will appreciate so much your help..

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You can be both.

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    • zoedee
      11 years ago

      what you mean?

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      • kelili
        11 years ago

        Be a mother and be happy

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        • zoedee
          11 years ago

          thanks, you are absolutely correct, I have been married for 15 years ...I always ask myself why this happened? is it for a reason or just a lesson..I work in public and never felt anything for anybody else because as said before I always had been steady and adores my husband and children..but life is not easy, the work, house , I guess we all get tires and sometimes woman end up working more than a man and there would be time that we stop and say ,,what a hard life'' with the social networks around us it is very easy to start talking with people and un expected you will meet a person that your mind will work it out is a perfect match and you can have a better life... well how it can be perfect when you have to run away from your beloved one to start this fantasy...I do not wish anyone to pass from this kind of episodes..thanks Kelili.

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  • KaaleeBund
    11 years ago

    no one can help u, untill unless it is ur will to come out from this issue. try to be very clear with ur feelings and b honest with yourself and fam.May God Help u as it is painfull condition.

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    • zoedee
      11 years ago

      i know, you are right, i try, I do my best, but is my mind that is working over me and making me so tired..i sometimes feel going crazy..is such a bad situation.

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