Is it normal the way my male friend is acting?
For the record, I'm a 20 year old girl. I met this guy a few years back and we started sleeping together. I liked him but he was using me. When I finally admitted that to myself, I lost touch with him. Aaaanyways, we started talking again as friends a year later and I found that we really do have loads in common and a very similar sense of humour. I was in another relationship with someone else at this point and that's when he began pursuing me. When that relationship ended, he eased off though we were still friends. Now here's where it really relates to my question - during the last 4-5 months, we've ended up in bed together a few times after meeting up as and with friends. Despite how well we get on, my guy friend would act pretty keen to have me gone afterwards. At first, I didn't mind too much because I was only really in it for the sex and company too...or so I thought. Yes, predictably I've began to really like him again. The last time we slept together was last weekend and afterwards we sat talking, listening to music and having a good laugh. I admit, I thought that maybe he was beginning to feel the same - I thought back to this party we were at recently and how we were attached at the hip basically and probably looked like a couple (though neither of us tried anything sexual). Yeh, I thought, He definitely must feel the same. But since this last time we slept together, I thought I'd 'play the game' and let him do the chasing but he made absolutely NO attempt to get in touch. I eventually gave in after around 4 days and spoke to him over the internet about something completely unrelated and he just didn't seem interested in me at all. AT ALL. I know that I am intellectually stimulating to him, otherwise we couldn't hold down long and interesting conversations could we? I'll add that he can be quite neurotic sometimes but so can I. What is his problem? I thought I was going about this the right way - I don't bombard him with messages or anything and I've never even told him how I feel. Why would he behave this way? It doesn't seem typical to me.