Is it normal the way my guy best friend treats me?

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Hi! So I've known my guy best friend for 2 years and we are pretty close, he has been in my house a few times and a day before he came over he started telling me to listen to some songs that basically said we should be more than friends and all that kind of stuff, he started calling me baby, he started asking pictures of me (not naked pics or something like that, just pictures of myself), he texts me everyday and almost all day, he has told me I'm pretty and that I'm way prettier than my friends, he even wants me to go to the same college as him.

One day he came over to my house at 3ish pm and we decided to watch movies, I sat down with my laptop on my lap and he sat next to me, we saw 3 movies and while watching them he started acting really really weird, like, he started rubbing my cheek and putting his head on my shoulder, he start hugging me, he even bite my arm and kissed my hand, then he started to touch my stomach and putting his arm around me(stuff a couple does?) and then out of nowhere he kissed my cheek and my forehead, I didn't know how to feel at the moment because it was my bff so I just got along with it, then I noticed that while I was watching the movie (mr. deeds) I laughed/smile and noticed he was watching me and smiling but I acted as if I didn't noticed. Then we connected the laptop to the tv, and he was still seating next to me, like really close, and then he lied down his head on my lap, then he started playing with my hair and then grabbed my head and pulled me down to kiss me on the lips, of course I kind of moved cause he kissed me close to the lips but not "in" the lips. He tried to kiss me two more times but I wouldn't let him pull me down anymore. I talked with him about what happened the next day and I asked him why he did it cause the problem is he has a girlfriend, and he just said that he didn't know why he did it, he was "just curious" and we kind of fought so we stopped talking and after a week, everything went back to the same and he kept asking for pics of myself while we text and he even sent me a pic of myself that I used to have as profile on Fb and told me he loved how I looked in it. He also asked me to help him choose his shoes and tie for prom (bc his gf couldn't go with him) but he said he would asked her if it was ok if I went with him, and I guess she said yes cause I ended up at the mall but he started hugging me a lot and touching my waist and everything. And he's always saying "we should go out for dinner" and then I don't text back immediately so he adds "someday" and I just don't answer yes or no cause idk if he's saying this in a friendly way or in another one?

He constantly jokes (or at least I think he does) about me coming over to his house, he invited me yesterday but I couldn't go.
I want to know if this is normal, is this how he treats me because I'm his bff or what's going on?

Yes, that's how bff treat each other! 2
No! That sounds as he likes you! 64
No, he's just a player 21
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  • plum6
    10 years ago

    he obviously likes you a lot. the more intresting question now is if he sees you as a fling or someone he just wants to have sex with or if he is actually in love with you and is considering leaving his gf because of you..

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    • sncc
      10 years ago

      I think you're right! Yesterday he came over to this hotel I'm staying at with my family and we just spent the day talking and joking around, but he confuses me sometimes cause, we were at the room just searching for my ipod and then he was sitting on the bed and I was standing in front and he just lifts me up and throws me to the bed and then starts tickling me. He also told me we should travel together to Spain or at least LA/NY, he also said "just the two of us" and then he said something about how expensive it was to travel to Spain so I jokingly said that then we should stay there and he was like, yeah and we could name our child James and stuff like that. And he kept on hugging me and grabbing me from my waist and idk it's all so confusing, he also asked me where he should take his gf for dinner next week (cause is her birthday) but I don't think they are in love anymore, like, they don't do cute stuff for each other anymore or anything like that, but well, let's see what happens!

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      • plum6
        10 years ago

        listen, i know the situation seems weird and shady but this doenst have to be a bad thing. People in a relationship sometimes meet other people they simply like more.. I think he might like you more than he likes his current gf.. You two should either let go and see what happens or have a serious talk. Whatever is going on here, it is pretty exciting and you should see it as a good thing :)

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  • Devyn
    10 years ago

    While the line is blurred for me because my bff is my boyfriend, I think this definitely sounds like he likes you and wants break up with his girlfriend and be with you. I advise telling him that you're not interested while he is currently in a relationship (or just tell him you're not interest at all, you didn't say whether you were :P)

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    • sncc
      10 years ago

      Oh well I might do that! Yeah, I think I like him, I'm not really sure if he would break up with her cause he tells me about all the problems they've had and once he said he couldn't dumped her, that she could do it anytime she wanted but he couldn't cause he would feel "bad". But it deff is worth a try, I think?

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  • ObsessedWithReedus
    10 years ago

    It sounds like he wants to be more than friends but if he has a girlfriend he might be a player, hate to say it. Pay attention to how he acts around his gf, does he seem like he's losing interest in her? He might be crushing on you!

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    • sncc
      10 years ago

      Well, he has told me a few times he might brake up with her cause she treats him like crap, and she actually does, and a mutual friend of his gf and I told me she wanted to break up too, I'm actually really confused about all this.

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      • ObsessedWithReedus
        10 years ago

        Whoah, I'm pretty confused right now too. Hope it all works out for you soon!

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    I definitely had to laugh at this one. How could there even be any question about what's going on here?

    And um... I'm about 99% sure that he lied to you when he said his GF couldn't come with him to the mall but she was okay with you going. I'm sure he told her that he wanted to go alone and had no idea that he asked you to come.

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    • sncc
      10 years ago

      Things got a little complicated cause his gf almost broke up with him, and he called me almost crying asking for advice or just for me to listen and I just told him he should talk to her so he went over to her house and they talked and apparently things got better, but he keeps on sending this mixed signs, it's confusing cause he really loves his gf but at the same time I feel something is going on between us but I'm not 100% sure so...

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  • fullhouse
    10 years ago

    You lip kissed n still talk? You seem to be into him too but since he's in a relationship you are holding it. Be true to yourself

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    • sncc
      10 years ago

      Well we didn't actually kissed, I mean, he tried to kiss me but I backed off. After that we stopped talking for like a week and then everything back to normal. I like him for sure, but I'm not sure if I like him as a friend or something more..

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Didn't read the whole thing but I'd say he likes you.

    P.S. Player4Life!

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