Is it normal the way i feel about my boyfriend's son?

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I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He has a son that I have come to love as if he were my own. We have him every other week, when he's not with us he's with his mom (she has 51% custody).
I think she's not a very good mom, granted I've seen worse (hell I have worse) but still (also I have never wanted kids, NEVER. and always have thought surely I wouldn't be that good of a mother, but I still think I'd be better than her) ... I am always thinking that the boy would be better off with his dad, with me. He calls me mom on occasion, always calls me step mom. He told me the other day that I'm the best mom.
I have morals I follow with him, that she doesn't
I'm honest - he's caught her lying so much he's starting to know not to trust her

I keep my promises - she's broken hers so many times that again he's starting to know better

I never drink more than one drink when he's around - she's had them stranded without a car because she got drunk at the bar

I could go on and on...

I keep tabs on him in school, I taught him how to safely ride a bike in town, I've given him books on growing up because no one will talk to him about it.

At our house he has his own room- at her house he often sleeps in the living room to get away from her to kids-in-law.
He has a bed time with us, he has chores and structure with us. Not there...

So I have all these feelings and thoughts that come down to me wishing wishing wishing he was mine and not hers. that he lived with his father and me, not her and her husband. I know it would be wrong to take him away from his mom, don't get me wrong he would still get to visit with her if my dreams came true...
Is It Normal for me to feel this way and so strongly? Even though he's not my child... I'd do anything for him.

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  • KingOfNowhere
    11 years ago | pl

    Lady, you a bawse.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Thats cool caring for a child that is not yours.

    You sound like a very respectible lady.

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  • Redlegs24
    11 years ago

    The child is lucky to have you in there life & kids need all the love that they can get & it don't matter if it's not your biological child

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  • gargamel
    11 years ago

    You are a good mother.

    I reckon it's totally normal.

    Cheers :)

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  • OswaldCobblepot
    11 years ago

    You're a good person.

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  • annm2361
    11 years ago

    It protecting him from her. That is ur job but honestly if u were to go for custody ur husband needs to feel how u do not u! Tell him how u feel and what does he think? If he says I want custody full time to protect him u would support him and ur up for that. Good luck

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  • toofgod
    11 years ago

    I'm.in the same situation but he's not in my "jurisdiction" and his whole family is on wellfare and insane. He's the only person i truly have a heart for amongst his shit bags for family members. The child is 11 and he literally shits his pants and the only power i have is call CPS but it would only make it worse. Anyways.

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