Is it normal the way i feel?

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I've been dating this girl for a little over three months now. A month or so in she tells me her step-uncle forced her down and fingered her while she was staying over at her aunt's. Being states away from her, I can't do anything but tell her to talk to her parents. She does. They believe her... for a short while. Somehow the step-uncle redeems himself. The past month and a half she's been peeing a lot and has pains in her pelvic region. She took a test and said it was negative. She tells me that he raped her... She's so far away, but she's still my babygirl. I would do anything for her and I am doing what I can by sending her what she needs... but I feel a small amount of anger that she didn't tell me all of what happened. Is this normal? :(

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    ^^From working in law enforcement and having to listen to CPS interviews dealing with child molestations I can tell you that actually a majority of parents do NOT believe their children. This could be a form of denial but either way....it still happens more often than not.

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago

    if her parents have been dicks about it she was probably scared of telling you the whole story, and scared that youd view her differently or think it was her fault. It's normal to be kinda pissed off but don't let it show, its a very psychologically complicated situation and I'm sure she wasn't keeping it from you deliberately, try to be understanding as best you can

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    • FOX445
      13 years ago

      It's her parents that are the real problem. Her mother is lazy and only works on the weekends cleaning houses when they absolutely need money. Her father can't work because of physical problems, but he does occasionally find work and then spends half of it on weed.

      I don't blame her for anything. We've been talking a lot about all of this. She knows that I don't blame her for anything and she knows that I don't view her any differently. I haven't shown her my anger, aside from when I vent about her idiotic mother that fucking won't take her to the doctor's office. It might not even be that she's pregnant either. It might be ovarian cancer. :/ She's been peeing a lot, had stomach pains, pain in her back and legs, and nausea. The only thing she doesn't know if she has is a swollen abdomen.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    this is a police matter

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Let's take a moment to pray

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    i couldnt imagine the things you heard and saw in your career and i applaud you for still having a level head.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    It's like that everywhere unfortunately. I took several continuing education classes during my career and learned a lot of disturbing facts. It is worldwide and horrifying. I still have disturbing thoughts about hearing so many interviews.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    wow randomjelly that is so screwed up that parents treat their children like that. im sorry to hear that its like that over there.

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    she hasnt known you for that long which makes me suspicious that she could be lying for your attention. i knew a girl who told everyone that her brother raped her then her brothers friend raped her then her father raped her and kept changing her story. another thing which makes me suspicious that its not true is because she said she told her parents, they believed her then they changed their mind. i dont know one single parent who would just change their mind so easily if their child really was molested. try to find out more of what happened and if she keeps changing her story then she could be lying. ask for details. was she crying or upset when she told you? if she was calm then chances are she made up the story.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    You can't be angry with her for not telling you...that's a hard thing to do. You also cannot allow this to continue. Call the cops in that area and child protective services. Do it today!!!!

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